Thursday, December 31, 2015

Wear your cage today

On the final day of 2015, Mistress decided I would wear my cage today.  So .... I'm a caged husband.

She decided last night that I would wear it today, and told me as much.  This morning I had a 9am meeting with some business big shots.  At 8:15 I remembered that she expected me to be caged today.  I had a dilemma.  There was no way I had enough time now to put my cage and still make my very important meeting.  I went to her for some guidance on what to do.  Not surprisingly her immediate response was ... "Now you've earned a punishment.  Why do you think that my instructions are not important enough for you to follow?  Did you not wake-up early today.  Was my instruction to you simply not important enough to you to plan ahead for?  I am very disappointed.  Go to your meeting but you will punished.  Oh, and by the way, you will come immediately following and properly follow my instructions.  That cage better be on ASAP!"

Over the past 3 days and 2 nights, we have been without kids.  It has been glorious because we were allowed to exist in our natural state in our home.  Me naked and attentive and she comfortable and relaxed.  For the past 2 nights, I had the joy of remaining naked in her presence from 5pm to 8am the next morning.  I was edged constantly.  Teased and denied relentlessly.  i was spanked more in the last two days than I have been in the last 2 months.  Not because I was naughty, but just because she wanted to.  It was glorious and for that, I thank you very much Mistress.

I know better than to ask for one more orgasm before the year is over.  To date this year, I am at 5.  I was certainly hoping that was going to be the case.  We'll see.

Happiest wishes for the New Year to all of you, my dear, dear friends.

Monday, December 28, 2015

We'll be alone


One of my kids is off on a small little vacation with his friend's family.  The other will be headed to the slopes with his friend's family as well.  That will leave Mistress K. and I ALONE for a few days, and neither of us can contain our excitement.

Last night we were along for the night.  We were at home and we were in what I call our natural state.  Her fully clothed and me fully naked.  We were watching the football game right after dinner when she told me to go get her wand vibrator.  She had decided she was going to have a fully clothed orgasm right then ... because she could.

I returned, wand vibrator in hand and a growing erection at the prospect of being allowed to view her give herself an orgasm.  She started then stopped abruptly.  "Go get your butt plug and bring it back here.  I want to watch you fuck yourself while I masturbate."   Holy crap ....... yes!

She had me get on the floor in between her open legs and said "Go on, get busy".  I laid on my back, pulled my legs to my chest and slowly yet quickly pushed the plug into my bottom.  I could hear an audible moan over the hummmm of the vibrator as the small lug moved in and out of my ass.  She watched intently at the show she required I put on for her and in no time she had a huge orgasm. 

While she recovered I stood and stepped toward her and in my best puppy-dog face and voice, I pleaded for her to allow a ruined orgasm for me.  She grabbed my swollen cock and started stroking it, as if she was going to allow it and then she suddenly stopped, removed her hand and told me "no, not tonight."  "go wash those things and put them away.  We are finished for the evening."

There are times when I just want to ejaculate SOOO bad.  This was one of those times and Mistress denied me.  The anguish was terrible   ....  and I couldn't lover her more for imposing her will, what she wanted on me.  I'm in love!

I hope it's a fun week for all of us!

Friday, December 25, 2015

Thursday, December 24, 2015

What if your Christmas present was ......

... the ability to be able to script out completely, your absolute most favorite sexual adventure ever? Many of us lovingly enjoy living under specific rules in our relationships that limited our actual behavior to whatever our dominants want for us.  Like many of you, for me that is exactly how I wish to live in general.  Even so, I'm talking here though about the specifics of being allowed to script and cast what would be your most desirable sexual adventure, even outside of those rules if that applies.

There are no rules here except to say that I would ask that you be completely honest about what it might be.  You can include whatever real and actual rules, limitations or restrictions you currently live under (sub) or impose (Dom/Domme) if that is part of your ultimate fantasy, but aren't required to. 

Please ... I'd love to hear from all my friends here about what they would love to do, how they would do it, where it would happen and who it would be with. 

What if your Christmas present was going to be the ability to script that entire without fear of retribution, shame or guilt?  I'd love to see what you may come up with and then will details what mine would be in a future post.

In the meantime, everyone please hear me when I tell you ... I so very much love and appreciate all of you.  Whether you just come to lurk, participate anonymously or openly leave comments proudly next to your name, I can't even begin to tell you how very much I appreciate sharing my intimate lives with all of you.

Have a Blessed Christmas, a very Happy Holidays and a joyous and prosperous New Year!

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Early Christmas Present

I did some Christmas shopping yesterday.  While I was out I came across this .....

It was in a store that had upscale kitchen items and was in among many other wood utensils.  I bought it for Mistress, and not because she has a shortage of wooden utensils in the kitchen.  It was if it jumped out at me and said "hey buddy, you and I are going to get to know each other very well."  When I went to the counter to pay for it, the middle aged sales lady suggested that I buy the wood oil that is used to preserve it.  She said that after a lot of use in the kitchen, the wood can dry and crack from being used for cooking and washed so often.  I said  "no thanks ... it wasn't going to be used for cooking."  There was obvious innuendo (at least to me) and she smiled just a bit, looked at me for a second, smiled again and continued to ring up my purchase.  I think she had an idea but was simply too gracious to imply anything to a complete stranger.  I thought about telling her what it was going to be used for, but I too am gracious and wouldn't dream of imposing such information on an unsuspecting person.

I gave it Mistress K. immediately upon returning home.  It was a Christmas gift but I didn't want to have to explain to the kids why dad made such a big deal about giving mom a wooden spoon on Christmas morning.

Here is another view:

You'll notice it's curved.  Mistress gave it a "tender, light test run this morning" and was thrilled to discover that the curve of the spoon matched the curve of my behind nicely.  As such, this little gift of love that I gave to my Mistress can deliver two very distinct and different types of ouchy!  I already know from a different wooden spoon that we have that the back side of the curved delivers a concentrate amount of stingy ouchy at the point of impact. 

With the business of the season and other vanilla things taking so much of our waking hours recently, Mistress K. and I have had little time to be together in our natural state.  We both expressed how much we "missed each other" lately and can't wait for the hustle of the season to be over.

Merry Christmas and Happiest of Holidays to all of my dear friends I have made over the past few years.  I can't even begin to tell you how important each one of you is to me, even though we have never met. 

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

How I was milked

I've had a couple of people ask how the milking went, so here goes ....

Monday turned out to be a very hectic day and as such, we didn't get to bed until very late and we were both very tired.  As I lay naked in our bed, waiting for Mistress K. to join me, I didn't know what, if anything to expect this night.  Mistress came to the edge of the bed, took a big drink of water and declared that my milking would be postponed for another time.  She was just not in the mood and wanted to kick the can down the road.

"Yes Mistress, as you wish" ...

She gets into bed.  She normally sleeps in the nude because I had asked her if she would do that for me several weeks ago.  For the most part, she does sleep naked every night.  This night she wore panties and a t-shirt because she was "cold".  I told her I understood the t-shirt but jokingly asked how her panties were going to help keep her warm.  She simply said that she was wearing panties because she had "things happening down there".  I thought she was referring to being on her period but it turned out that she was just wet.  The thought suddenly occurred to her that she was horny and removed her panties, ordered me to get my cock hard and "put it inside me". 

I was dead-ass tired and when she said the milking would be postponed, I was honestly relieved because laying there in bed felt so good.  I was seconds from falling asleep.  When she ordered me hard and inside her, I knew what I needed to do and complied.  She was on her back, perpendicular to me, her legs together and in the air while she removed her panties.  I was told I had been given enough time to get hard (30 seconds) and while she held that position, I was ordered inside of her.  She started masturbating and was on an obvious, rapid path toward an orgasm when she told me to get her vibrator.  After retrieving it and resuming the same position, she concentrated on what was a very fast, very deep orgasm, with me inside of her, tenderly pumping while trying to avoid an orgasm.

After she had her orgasm (an especially good one) and while I was still inside of her, she told me that my milking would happen tonight after all.  I was instructed to bury myself as deep inside of her as I could and then remain absolutely motionless.  "DO NOT move inside of me but your are to empty your balls", was the next thing out of her mouth.  The rare ruined orgasm while inside the happiest place on earth for me.  There was zero movement.  None.  Having just witnessed my Queen have a glorious orgasm and with the thought of being allowed inside of her, it didn't take much for me to just allow my cum to pump from my body into her.  There was zero movement and the only stimulation being the warmth and comfort of being inside of her. 

Milking accomplished, via ruined orgasm!

She turned to me, held my face a little, kissed and instructed me to go to sleep.   I just love the second Monday of every month.

Monday, December 14, 2015

Monday, December 7, 2015

I promise, this phase of referencing articles will pass

My last two post have been essentially comments about and referrals to others words that I found interesting, inspiring or both.  This post is no exception, but I promise that sharing other's thoughts wont be a lasting trend for me ... for too long.

I came across a post on FetLife here:

It was commentary from a Fet member named DissectMe.  FetLife is lousy with miserable and deplorable posts and so when something that is smart and thinky-like appears, it's a real pleasure.  DissectMe is an obviously smart woman that cuts through the muck of FetLife with ease.  Her comments about the article, and the questions that followed, I thought were incredible. 

In her post, there was a link to an article entitled "3 Ways Men Wanting to ‘Focus On Her Pleasure’ During Sex Can Still Be Sexist".  Here is a direct link t the article:

She also asked  "Do you see this as prevalent in the Female Dom/male sub dynamic?"

I read the article and the thought occurred to me ... there are rare occasions where the dynamic that Mistress K. and life love and live everyday, could actually apply and help in a vanilla relationship.  Most, if not all of the things the article talks about, simply don't exist in a loving, Female Led Marriage.  I understand that there exceptions because everyone's relationship is unique, as are the individuals in that relationship.  But for the most part, there is a natural defense against the issues discussed in the article. 

Made me feel good ....  *smile

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

*link to* Me and my Chaste Husband

For some reason today, I'm feeling all "sharey" and I feel the need to share more cool reading that I have come across, because you now how it is ... something strikes a cord in my mind and of course that automatically means that anyone I have ever "talked to" here must feel the same way I do ..... So why not post it?  *smile.  Forgive me for that.  Pressing on ........

Many of you may already read the blog "Me and My Chaste Husband".  It is a written by a lovely woman and Mistress Wife named Katie Christian.  She will tell you that Christian is not her real last name. 

Anyway, she writes some amazing, right to the point posts that are primarily devoted to male (her husband) enforced chastity.  I encourage you to go there and browse through some of the brilliantly written posts. 

Her most recent post (as of this writing) is especially wonderful.  You can read it by following the link below:

In it, you will find this sentence, which for many of us submissive husbands, sums up our true existence very nicely:

"I wanted the satisfaction of knowing that when we were intimate I would be satisfied, he would not simply put my desires first, they would be the singular goal."
Thank you Katie Christian ..........

7 Types of Marriage Betrayal

I absolutely believe that my life is not immune, but well protected from these things.  I am grateful that neither of us have to deal with these things (and others like them) too often.

I read this article and it immediately occurred to me that although my marriage is no perfect by any stretch of the imagination, it is very good.  I had a great deal of pride because the negative things that were listed in the article just don't exist in my marriage. 

I can't say for certain that these traits would've existed in our marriage if we hadn't chose the FLM path a few years ago, but I do know that the chances would've be far greater. 

I'm thankful ...  In the beginning, before I approached by wife and asked her to accept my submission, avoiding a marriage with the things described in the article was my primary goal.  I love you Mistress K., for allowing our life to happen.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Throwback Tuesday

Immediately after I summoned the courage, approached my wife, the love of my life, and asked her accept my submission and to impose her domination on our marriage, (oh, and she agreed, duh) we set out to create some rules.  She tasked me with creating a draft list of rules that we could work from.  Below is the result of our first attempt.  Sadly, I do not know the date this was created.  Happily, hardly a thing has changed!



·         The Lady is the Dominant.  The pet is the submissive.

·         These rules may be amended or modified at any time at the sole discretion of The Lady

·         Pet will be kept in constant chastity to The Lady.  Such chastity is expected at all times whether it is voluntarily self-enforced, or The Lady has required the pet to wear a chastity device (lockable cage) that will prevent pet from touching or otherwise stimulating his penis, obtaining an erection or receiving stimulation directly against penis.

·         The pet acknowledges that his pleasure is derived from providing service and pleasure to The Lady.

·         The pet shall make every attempt to keep his body in pristine condition so as to further enhance the enjoyment of its use by The Lady.  As such, the pet shall maintain a completely shaved genital and anus area.  Pet shall submit to physical inspection of any part of pet’s body, at any time, for any reason by The Lady.

·         As a default and at all times, when The Lady and pet are securely alone (as determined by The Lady), pet shall be expected to be naked and to be kept naked even while performing normal duties and functions.  Pet shall be expected to become naked and remain so without being asked.  The Lady may require pet to wear something, anything, exclusively of The Lady’s choosing, as determined solely by The Lady. 

·         In normal life, during the normal course of a regular day, pet will wear normal clothes.  The Lady may require that the pet wear something in particular under pet’s “normal” clothes at her sole discretion as she deems appropriate.

·         All pets’ orgasms are owned by The Lady.  If pet is to have an orgasm, it will be because The Lady has allowed the pet to have it.  Any such permissible orgasm for the pet shall be achieved solely in a manner dictated by The Lady.

·         The pet will plan on having fewer orgasms than given the prohibition to masturbation. 

·         The Lady will manage and control the release of seminal fluid of the pet as The Lady deems appropriate.  Such release may or may not include orgasm, at the sole discretion of The Lady.

·         Pet will be required to orgasm on demand, or conversely, will be denied orgasm as The Lady deems necessary and at her sole discretion.

·         The duration and sensitivity/roughness of pets sexual performance at the pleasure of The Lady is at the sole discretion of the lady. 

·         Pet’s body belongs to The Lady.  As such, The Lady has exclusive use, control and direction of pet’s body. 

·         Any part of pet’s body is available for use by The Lady at any time, day or night, for the sexual, visual or physical pleasure of The Lady, in any way The Lady determines.  Pet may be required to perform sexual acts that give direct stimulation to The Lady or pet may be required to perform sexual acts on him for the visual pleasure of The Lady.  Any such acts are at the sole discretion of The Lady.

·         Any sexual demand/request made of pet by the Lady will be followed without question and with enthusiasm.

·         Pet is only allowed to have orgasm when given permission/instruction by The Lady.  When in the presence of The Lady, and when on the verge of achieving orgasm. Pet will always ask for permission to orgasm.  Pet will only be allowed to orgasm if such permission is granted by The Lady

·         Pet may not fondle, massage, stroke, rub or otherwise touch his penis (except when urinating and cleaning) without permission or instruction from The Lady.

·         Pet may not fondle, massage, rub, enter or otherwise pleasure his anus (except when pooping and cleaning) without permission or instruction from The Lady.

·         Pet will wear any accessory or device, externally or internally, the Lady deems necessary at any given time, for however long is deemed appropriate by The Lady, without hesitation and without argument.  Such device may be anything that might harness or control pet’s penis or something that may be inserted and held in pet’s ass. 

·         Any item that may be inserted into pet’s ass will be at the sole discretion of The Lady.  Items may be inserted for a variety of reasons, such as training pet’s ass;  as a punishment;  as a reward;  as a visual stimulation for The Lady;  as a constant reminder of pet’s dedication to The Lady throughout the day;  just because The Lady wants to.

·         Pet is required to communicate with The Lady about any physical issues that may prevent pet from performing his duties in the service of The Lady. 


·         The pet is under the authority of The Lady. 

·         There will be times when the pet breaks guidelines, misses expectations, fails to follow instructions, or generally displeases The Lady. Without consequences, the pet will be pretty much be encouraged to continue to displease The Lady.

·         Finding a punishment that has the desired effect of correcting behavior is an exercise for The Lady to determine, at her sole discretion.  Such punishments shall be determined to be corrective punishment, or punishment that’s that are in direct correlation to displeasure of the pet by The Lady.

·         The Lady may determine that regularly scheduled, maintenance punishments will be useful. The type, duration and severity of said maintenance shall be at the sole discretion of The Lady

·         Punishment may include, but are not limited to the following:  
-  Spanking, with or without the use of an implement such as a paddle, hair brush, wooden spoon, ruler, riding crop.  Spankings may be administered by The Lady in any position she deems suitable, at her sole discretion
-  Repeated intense Tease and Denial
-  Longer duration of chastity
-  Sleeping on floor
-  humiliation