I know that logic and reason tell me that keeping our relationship to ourselves (except for her one best friend that lives far away - read here) is the most prudent plan. I just can't escape the desire for Mistress to have a friend that knows she is a Mistress Wife. Someone that she can trust never to reveal our lifestyle to anyone ... ever. Someone that she can confide in, to talk with about her fears, accomplishments, excitements ... or anything that comes into her head in our relationship ... you know, like best-girlfriends do in every other aspect of their lives.
Hand to God .... I don't want this for Mistress K. because I think it will eventually lead to sex with her friend(s). I truly want for her to have a way to be able to talk about the exciting things she does behind closed doors with her friends. Mistress K. and I have talked about it often, if she were just able to speak frankly with some of her friends that have constant marriage issues, and reveal to them the natural course of a FLM .......... well you get the idea. To be able to talk about and explain this ..............
To be able to explain the benefits of strict, disciplinary actions to enforce what is a natural source of enjoyment for the Mistress Wife and dutiful husband. How arguments or fights rarely occur, and when they do, they are resolved super quick and to everyone's satisfaction.
Friends helping friends ..... When there is a natural way for friends to be able to help friends, well good things happen.
I have the same need and desire for her to have someone to confide in and, like you, it has absolutely nothing to do with wanting to have sex with her friends or introduce anyone else into the relationshsip.
ReplyDeleteI just know it would be wonderful, comforting and liberating if Mistress K. had a confidential friend (we all do seem to talk though, don't we?).
DeleteMy late wife and I had one of her girlfriend's know about our situation, having accidentally come in with me in the corner after a spanking. After explaining everything, the friend was mildly intrigued (she was divorced) but, as my wife said, not all that interested. So, the type of relationship you and Dan envision never came about, but she always said she was glad our friend knew.
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I don't really "envision" any particular relationship for Mistress K. In general, I just feel that if she had someone that knew, and was trustworthy enough to remain discrete and confidential about it, that in and of itself would make Mistress K. feel supported
DeleteThere is definitely a community of dominant Women out here, any time your Mistress wants to engage. I’m happy to be a resource and perhaps a nice Forte Femme weekend with Midori would be a well chosen splurge for Her.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for that generous offer to help TSPD. In addition to having an already trusted, vanilla friend to talk to from time to time, I would also love for Mistress to naturally befriend other like-minded women.
DeleteIt would be so wonderful to be open with friends about our lifestyle. I think many of us see friends struggling in their own relationships and wish we could share.
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Roz
I completely agree Roz. Mistress K. and I will often talk about couples that we know that we are certain could benefit from the "lifestyle". Consensual D/s requires strength of character, courage, trust and deep love.
Deletesub hub, sorry I haven't posted to your site for some time, usually I find your site while visiting other sites but this time I came just to your site. I understand what you are saying, but if she confided in someone. And if that someone was to visit would they also see how you and Mistress interact? If you dress a certain way when alone with Mistress would you do the same with someone that she confided in? Could you also in time be told to be submissive to that other person? Could it be kept to where Mistress just talked to the other person?
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No worries archedone .... glad to have you hear however it comes to be.
ReplyDeleteAll good questions archedone. I suppose the answer to each one of them is-it depends on which direction and how Mistress would want or allow nature to go. I suppose it is entirely possible, even likely, that a friend of her that is in the know would be more likely to witness Mistress and I in our "natural habitat". With all of the obvious sexual overtones associated with something like that, my guess is that Mistress would be guarded against the potential for something happening that couldn't be unwound. So, without knowing what would actually happen, I can tell you this .... in such potential scenario(s) I would of course do and behave exactly how I was instructed to by Mistress. If Mistress wanted .... Yes, she would see how Mistress and I interact. Yes, she would she would be witness to whatever state of dress Mistress required I be in. Yes, I would be submissive to another person if expected to do so by Mistress And finally, yes, things could be kept to where Mistress just talks tot he other person.
The only person who might know that my partner spanks me is a woman whom I knew in school. She now lives several hundred miles away, but we exchange e-mails occasionally. In one mail I said that I had to get the apartment tidied up as my girlfriend had threatened me with a spanking if I didn't. This was true, but I thought my old school friend would take it as a joke. To my surprise, in her next mail she said: "Did you manage to avoid the threatened spanking?" I answered that I had not tidied up to my girlfriend's satisfaction and that I had been duly spanked. In her next mail she made no comment, and I still don't know if she thinks it was all a joke.
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I know how that goes. I've done the same thing. I still keep the "joking" angle alive while fully admitting to being subject to and/or receiving a spanking.
DeleteThis is a very good topic for Dom Wife's..
ReplyDeleteMy sister observed us one day 6 or 8 months ago when she was over visiting. We were in the livingroom when he came home. I had him remove my shoes and socks, when he was done I pushed my foot in his face, he knew to suck my toes for a minute and kiss them.. I thought she would say something but she did not. Not until a few months later. Fast forward to now, she has been over twice now for lessons on Femdom, her feet and toes have been kissed and sucked now too. I needed to have someone know and share this life style with.
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I can fully appreciate the need for a Mistress Wife to have someone to share things with.
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