No, not in the sense of two pieces of wood clamped over my balls to force them behind me, but in the more traditional sense of the word.
I am so very honored and humbled by some of the incredibly nice and supportive comments I have received after my last post. We are a close knit group of people and I am so delighted be associated with each one of you. God Bless you all.
SH, thank you for the post, and your thoughts on everyone's interesting comments. sar
ReplyDeleteAs always my friend, it's truly my pleasure
DeleteSub Hub I went back and read the last post again but with different thoughts. What I seen this time was the readers of your blog showing how much they care for you and Mistress K. You and she can feel proud that you are both cared for.
ReplyDeletearchedone
I believe you are correct my friend. Again, I am humbled and honored!
DeleteSHIP -- Like you, I think that most of your readers and commenters view the FLR lifestyle as a real life choice that must be nurtured and supported. Like Kathy's Femdom 101 blog, your blog supports those of us who want to make FLR a real part of our marriages and relationships. Those of us who have embraced this lifestyle recognize that there would be much less conflict and significantly fewer divorces if FLR were embraced by more couples. Indeed, I think the world would be a better place if FLR could be implemented beyond individual relationships.
ReplyDeleteIt is risky to open yourself to the world by blogging (as you can see I am still not at the point where I am able to shed my anonymity). However, your willingness to share your experience with your Mistress K has been a wonderful resource and model, as well as a source of inspiration for those of us who want to make this work. Again, thank you for your blog and sharing your own journey with us.
tom
Thank you for taking the time to comment. I completely agree with you tom. There would be more happiness/less divorce if it were easier in society for others to be introduced to the benefits we have the privilege of enjoying. Of course, that would only be possible if it were something that each party in the relationship wanted. I believe they WOLD want it if they had the opportunity to see it for what it is, thin it through and allow themselves to visualize what their own life could be like if they embraced it.
DeleteThank you so much for the kind words, especially the comparison to Kathy, and your use of the word "model". I truly appreciate that you fell that way.
Best,
SHIP
SHIP, good point adding on that happiness and less divorce would be benefits of society being more willing to adapt to FD lives. Yes, you guys, Kathy and others are "models" for us who follow :) sara
DeleteYou make it easy ship. Your posts are blatantly authentic and filled with sincere adoration for your loving Mistress. Your replies to the comments you receive are just as sincere and even more gracious. Those endearing qualities are what keeps us coming back.
ReplyDeleteAt the heart of any successful FLM is deep love and respect for each other in a companionship. Whether Dom or sub, the goodness of those qualities show forth in the blogs we read and write and the comments we share. Because of this dynamic we seem to be a fairly close knit group of folks. As you are, I am grateful for this as it's been easier to join in and put myself out there.
Aristotle put it well, "The whole is greater than the sum of it's parts"
Looking forward to the continuing saga of Mistress K and her ship!
Take care,
sublove
Truer words were never spoken brother sub. Indeed the deep love and respect is crucial for what each of us seeks ... genuine happiness.
DeleteThanks for your continued interest and support. See you "down the road"
SHIP
Do what is for you, but with that said, it is possible to train yourself to go longer if that is your preference.
ReplyDeleteI have had my share of "short duration" troubles. That's the main reason we do not use chastity devices. But, right now I have gotten to the point where I can go 20+ minutes with her riding. I have found that if I calmly focus on being the instrument of her pleasure (watching her enjoy the ride while calmly thinking to myself "I am for her pleasure") that I can last long enough that she can get too tired to continue. My wife takes a long time to orgasm, vaginally. It has taken me almost a year to get to this point. Alternatively, if I am on top and fucking her I can't go over 10 min yet, as it is much harder to keep my mental focus on her, still working at it. My ultimate goal is training myself to not be able to orgasm until she tells me to by saying "cum for me now". I haven't had an orgasm in the last 6 months where she hasn't told me to. Earlier on I told her I was close and asked permission, so she can say the phrase that I am trying to make a trigger.
One other aid I found came about by accident. Getting older, I started to have some random stiffness issues that my doctor prescribed small dose Levitra for. I noticed when taking it, I was lasting longer as well. You might consider trying that as well.
Best of luck to the both of you.
Hi MyWifesCsPet. thank you for your comment. Perhaps your comment was meant for another post where I discussed the dilemma of being repeatedly teased, brought to the edge of orgasm and then denied, and the effect that has on a man that might otherwise be called upon to also become a long duration lover for his Wife when she wants it. "Short duration troubles". That being said, I couldn't agree with you more and for the record we both want for me to be that for her. As such, your comment and advice is very much appreciated and welcomed.
DeleteThe last time I was "called upon" to perform in bull-like fashion for my wife, it was a pleasant surprise for both of us that I was more than sufficiently able to give her the kind of good fucking she wanted right then. Much of my ability to "last" for her had to do with the "her riding" position. Thankfully she loves that position and so do I. I love looking up at my Goddess Mistress, in all of her glory while grinds on my cock. on her way to an orgasm. It is a vision of beauty that is breathtaking for me. Like you, if I am on top, I find it incredibly more difficult to last because for me, on top (especially missionary) is so much intimate and therefore more difficult to refrain from cumming.
Also like you, my ultimate goal is to train myself to withstand the urge to orgasm until being either authorized or instructed to do so. I also use will calmly focus on what my purpose is in our relationship, which is to be the instrument of her pleasure. Each time my progress get tested, I'm usually able to demonstrate improvement in the duration game.
I'm also a bit older and as of yet, I haven't had any erections. Knock on wood! (pun intended). I do intend to ask my doctor about your suggestion however. I have heard that same thing from others as well.