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The truth will set you free. Not some porn-fueled version of the truth, but the actual truth. I believe the following writing to be the absolute truth when it comes to masculinity and submission in men, and what the true beauty of a loving WLM/FLR looks like. It's stunningly beautiful.
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Masculinity in a FLR
Lets talk about Masculinity in a FLR.
First of all, I think it doesn't need pointing out, that we do have a major masculinity problem in our world today.
We do not have men that understand what it means to be men. Men have forgotten the art of chivalry.
They've forgotten that sex is special, intimate, and sacred.
We live in a time of instant gratification, where porn can replace any of their sexual needs, just through triggering fantasy alone.
Replacing real connection and real relationships, with fictional characters on a screen.
There are many men that lack the ability to develop the courage to find a woman in real life to date.
This is a problem, because it is creating men that lack inner strength, they lack self esteem, they lack confidence, they lack life experience.
This has nothing to do with being submissive.
You can be a submissive man, and still be confident and full of self esteem. Lots of submissive men are, they run their own business and have leadership positions at work. It is possible.
There are naturally submissive men, but that does not mean that they must get rid of their masculinity as well. This puts many women in a very interesting position. This gives women the ability to lead her partner to become a man of integrity.
A woman in a FLR has the ability to empower him, to motivate him, and help him set goals and achieve them. All of his dreams can come true with her guidance, because frankly, he can't do it without her.
This is why a FLR is so powerful.
Because women can help men understand who they are, while at the same time, helping him understand her needs, and making sure all of her needs are met by him.
A submissive man can have the best of both worlds.
So many men have so much potential, that their Domme could be coaxing out of them. Use the idea of power exchange to power both of your lives.
A FLR is not about abuse, and degradation, that was never what a FLR was about. Yet the porn world will portray a Dominatrix leather clad and whip wielding.
A true FLR will use the power exchange to benefit both partners, while still making it sexy and fun.
Men can learn to become masculine properly, with respect for women, and with respect for their own bodies. Getting themselves in shape, and showing the world that abs are cool again.
We are living in a time where the world needs stronger men, especially emotionally stronger men.
Men that aren't led by their sex drive, men that have learned to tame their sex drive, and use it for productive means.
That's what chastity does.
That's what her holding the key does.
It brings the sacredness back to sex.
Not only that, but it also brings deeper love to the relationship, because every intimate encounter is cherished, and exciteful.
It's all about love.
A FLR is really just bringing back and maintaining the principles of a relationship that never lost it's initial attraction.
It's not about women being superior, or men being inferior. It never was. It was always about loving each other as you are, accepting each other as you are, being as you are, and using that to compliment each other into an empowered life together. To be great parents, and be role models of what it means to live a life of integrity.
To show your children what a real, happy couple looks like, compared to all the dysfunctional relationship that exist today. Real love, and real relationships do exist, but to make them work, you have to work with the energy, with the power exchange that you both naturally have.
Men, being submissive, doesn't mean being a pushover doormat.
Women, being dominant, doesn't mean being cruel and abusive.
Respect each others roles, and realize both are valuable. Together, the synergy can work so well, that you'll both be living on cloud 9, living the lives of your dreams, together. And it's only possible, because you have each other.
Masculinity is neither submissive nor dominant. That's just stereotypes culture uses to make one feel superior or inferior. Lies. Don't fall for it.
Masculinity is all about having integrity, and courage and confidence, and an attitude of I will do it. I will achieve my goals, I will follow my heart, I will have strength.
It's time for masculinity to be reborn.
Away from toxicity, and away from the idea that a masculine man is a brute without a brain.
Masculine men who are in touch with themselves, are far more useful to the feminine, and will connect with her on levels that those who aren't in touch, only dream of achieving, while they watch porn as their life passes them by.
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Interesting post...
ReplyDeleteThank you vanessachaland. Is that the good kind of interesting, or the other kind?
DeleteGreat post I like my wife to dominate me and be very submissive to her but I do not feel less masculine and she doesn’t think I am either..but I know I better behave or there will consequences!!..Soreassboy
ReplyDeleteSame here brother.
DeleteInteresting post. Submission and masculinity aren't mutually exclusive for sure. In the same way many submissive women are strong women in powerful professional positions.
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Strong women can be Roz, that's for sure. Ain't it great?
DeleteMy wife does not think of me as less of a man, she has told me it takes a man to admit that a woman knows what is best. The first time while dating when she said my actions reminded her of a naughty little boy and a spanking was what I was going to get, I laughed, went along with it. Wrong move, my bare bottom was never spanked so soundly, and I danced around the room, until told to stop. To this day, the bath brush will be applied when needed. Facing the wall, no matter if others sees me. She added Jammie punishment, meaning I must wear my pajamas all day, go to bed early, and this punishment could last a week or more depending on what I did. Come home from work and put on the pajamas. Have been spanked in hotels, worse spankings have come at her Mother's home, she is divorced, and the spankings are done in the bedroom, but still must face the wall in the front room, bare red bottom on display. So I have a good life, a wonderful wife, and cannot ask for anything more. Jack
ReplyDeleteThat sounds like a good life and a Wonderful Wife Jack. Thank you for sharing. Facing the wall in the front room, does that mean your mother-in-law bears witness to your spankings?
DeleteIt was my mother-in-law the reason I'm spanked. She told her daughter my attitude and behavior at times were like a little boy a naughty little boy and a spanking was the only way to address that. So yes my mother-in-law bears witness to my spankings. Facing the wall, bare bottom on display, really brings out the little boy in me, hate it, and being seen by her sure does not help. Jack
DeleteBut do you hate it? Really? I'll bet you love it.
DeleteI need a woman to spank me, I need this because it helps me to cope with many things. My wife knew this from the beginning, and yes if pinned down I would say I love it. My mother-in-law spankings hurt like hell, her scoldings, her pulling down my pants and underpants, he having me stand there all exposed and reminding me I've been a naughty littleboy well it is what I need. My wife has me call her Mommy when I need a spanking, my Mother-in-law I address as Mother Jackson. I don't love going out to eat after a spanking, others will know but a part of the punishment. Having to wear pajamas during the day, having to be given a bath, my mother-in-law has watched, and going to bed early, all a part of what I need. A male will never understand a female, but a female understands the male, and as my wife/Mommy saids males are just naughty little boys in a adult body, but never too old to be over Mommy lap and getting a very sound bare bottom spanking. Jack
DeleteIt is true that Western men don't have any idea what it means to be masculine anymore but who can blame them? They have been told for 20 years they are toxic and dangerous. Women are taught to excel with career and education, they don't need a man. It doesn't give men much incentive to win a woman's heart by being chivalrous or financially capable of providing for a family.
ReplyDeleteMost young women these days are part girls that have sex at the drop of a hat, not wife or mother material.
That being said I agree with everything in the article. Men need to be taught to be men and women need to be taught to be respectable women. The rest will naturally fall into place.
So very true, my wife from day one made it clear that in her dating days she has seen it all. She reminds me that she was not going to go through it again, nor accept it, she would be the one, that will address it. Her spankings hurt like hell, she insures you learn your lesson. One cannot while being spanked act like a little boy, because that is what you are when getting a spanking from your wife, a naughty little boy. Jack
DeleteUgh! Someone needs a bare bottom over the knee spanking until he comes to the 21st Century with the rest of us! Or until My ire at the expression of this Redpill drivel is expended!
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