Prostate Massage

Prostate massage is underrated and so very important.  For many reasons.  Especially as men get older ... like me.  I won't get preachy about it because I'm not a doctor, and I'll leave all that to the experts.  Suffice it to say, it's essential.

Some years ago, soon after my orgasms were reduced to 2-3 times per year, I was subject to a monthly milking schedule.  It was the first Tuesday of every month.  Even though our intentions were good in setting a schedule, real life got in the way too often, as it sometimes does, so we eventually abandoned the scheduled milkings.  We purchased an Aneros Prostate massager, identical to the one picture above.

These pictures are representative of how they work.  When we were first using it, we were doing it all wrong.  We never read the instructions, we just got right after it and manually manipulated it after it was inserted.  It kind of worked but not very well, and soon we tired of it.

Recently, Mistress K. and I have begun to refocus on my prostate at the suggestion of a doctor.  In particular, prostate massage.  Earlier in the day on Valentines's Day, Mistress had mentioned that she had something particular in mind for sex later.  I didn't know what would be expected of me until that evening.  On this day, Mistress decided to dust off the old Aneros massager and give it another go because it was her intention to give me a thorough prostate massage.  This time, though, she decided to read the directions.  It was a game-changer.  Turns out that the massager is designed to be used hands-free.  In other words, don't grab and move it around to try and massage the prostate.    Instead, it is designed to be inserted and manipulated ONLY by flexing and unflexing the sphincter muscles.  So that's what we did.  Already naked and caged in our home as I am required to be, she ordered my to the floor and on my back.  

She sat on the floor between my legs and pushed them apart.  She inserted a finger to get the party started.  She was tender, loving and commanding.  I immediately fell into subspace and laid back and started to relish in the feeling.  Then, she inserted the Aneros and told me about how to use it. I was to only use my sphincter muscles to manipulate the device.  Withing a minute or two, it began to feel fucking amazing.  She enjoyed being able to sit back and watch as I massaged my own prostate.  She was fascinated and loved every minute of it.  I even commented about how regular milkings would be so much easier for her because she really did have to do anything but tell me to do it.  

The whole scene was incredible.  Being already in subspace, I just kept going deeper and deeper and just lost in what was happening.  Being witnessed in such a vulnerable position, essentially fucking myself and being encouraged by the love of my life.  It was just so amazing.

One of the things that happens to a man that is caged 24/7/365 (mostly) is that eventually, your cock no longer is the center of attention in your own mind when it comes to seeking sexual satisfaction.  That being the case and with what was happening, I became desperate for Mistress K. to fuck me.  I asked her, then begged her to fuck me.  My man pussy was my sole source of sexual desire at that moment.  Being caged can make you forget you even have a cock. 

I was ordered to not stop with my newly found prostate massage exercise when she got and said she need to go to the bathroom.  She returned a few minutes, still fully dressed, wearing her strap on harness and my favorite cock that she uses to fuck me with.  

She fucked me good.  For a long time.  In several positions.  Started with missionary and then she turned me over and fucked me like the picture above.  She fucked on my side with one leg pulled up and she fucked cowgirl style with me on top.  It was glorious.  It was the most sensuous fucking I have ever received.  In the end, it was transformational love-making more than fucking.  

She was really into it and said for the first time she felt she knew what it was like to have a cock.  It was transformational for her too.  Eventually she couldn't take it anymore and ended it so I could put my strap on harness on and fuck her good.  It was fucking amazing.

Right after I inserted her favorite, big dildo inside her, she let out a moan and said, "I admit it, I love a big cock".  It didn't take her long to have several deep, amazing orgasms. until she was spent.  I was ordered off of her, told to bring her a glass of wine and to clean up the house.

I did not have my orgasm.  Like always, she has our orgasms for us, for which I thank her profusely.  Even though i did not cum, it was the most amazing mutual fucking session we have ever had.  

Then we ordered Chinese food and watched a movie.

Happy Valentine's day!

 

The Little Things

 

I was in my office at home, working.  Mistress K. was in her office, the room next to mine in our house.

I heard from the other room, "Boy, come here now."

"Yes Mistress.  Right away", I replied

When I walked into her office, she was on a Zoom.  She pointed to a spot on the floor and told me to stand there.  Being alone in our home, I was wearing only my cage when I walked into her office.  

During the course of her meeting, she would reach over, off camera, and fondle my balls and caged cock.  Then, she informed the people in the meeting that she needed to step away for a minute and that she would be right back.

She turned her camera and microphone off, stood up, kissed me sexily, and groped my ass.  She turned me around, had me place my hands on her desk and started spanking me.  It wasn't for punishment, it was just because she wanted to.  It was a small gesture but I found it incredibly hot!

Earlier in the day I sent her this text.  She loved it.  I think it inspired her.

Is it Feminization When She Fucks You?

Some say yes.  Some say sometimes.  Some say nah.  I say if that's what your goal is, then pegging is probably a central component of your journey, but it, in and of itself, does not define feminization.

I came across this blog post that is titled "Your Dildo - The Best Tool To Feminize Him", and it comes from a site called Naughtygurl.  The site is primarily dedicated to the feminization of men and sissys.  I'm not a sissy and Mistress K. currently has no desire to turn me into one.  Yes, she will often require me to wear panties under my clothes for work and for her general viewing pleasure.  Other than that, there is no desire to feminize me.

That said, as our WLM relationship as evolved over the years, I find that I am caged 24/7/365 (mostly) and that the source of my orgasms is increasingly limited to while I am caged, and while I am penetrated anally.  In fact, Mistress K. made it a point to let me know that I was under NO orgasm restrictions when I am caged and being penetrated anally.  In every other circumstance, I am required to ask for and receive permission to orgasm, which rarely happens.  This may sound awful, but it isn't.  In fact, it's wonderful.

"Feminization is an on-going process that includes many things that can be summarized as "making him behave like a woman."  This process includes, turning his ass into a pussy; dressing him in panties, bras, skirts, high-heels; putting make-ups, and so on.

"Among all of these tools, the one that is the most serious and successful is "strap-on sex."  By merely fucking his ass, you'd have passed 50% of the process of feminizing him."

This excerpt from the blog I mentioned earlier states, correctly in my opinion, that turning his ass into a pussy and dressing him in panties (not the rest of the stuff listed), has a profound positive effect on a happy, devoted submissive husband in a loving Wife Led Marriage.  

"The act of fucking his ass has dual effect, psychological and biological (yes, biological too), on each of you and him.  As he bends over to you, he physically and psychologically behaves like a woman.  The more he gets fucked, the more he'll like it and the more he'll behave femininely, and the less he would think of his dick for fucking; rather he would think more of being bottom".  

"This is because the ass is a natural part of the man, and since it gives him more pleasure than his dick, then his thinking of anal sex would replace that of him being on top."

I agree with these comments from the blog.  Anticipating and desiring her cock does cause me to behave like a woman.  A slutty woman, but a woman nonetheless.  I often will say to my Wife, "I'm trying to earn your cock Mistress."

"For you, the process is reversed.  The more you fuck his ass, the more masculine you become.  You physically and psychologically behave like a man.  When you wear your dildo under your pants, you start looking for a pussy to fuck.  When you fuck your hubby's pussy, your self-esteem is higher and your muscles become stronger and stronger."

I have asked, and Mistress K. has agreed, to start wearing her harness and dildo around the house under her regular clothes in order to enhance her comfort and familiarity with having a cock.  And yes, we do think that she will start looking for a pussy to fuck, and I hope that pussy is mine.  

Besides merely fucking his ass, it is equally important the way you do it, and the way you think of each other as you have sex.  Of course, most people love different positions in sex.  However, it is very crucial that you frequently fuck his ass hard, and while you be in full control of the position.  Pounding his ass is a good idea.  The more you are in control and powerful, the more you love yourself on top and the more he'll love you on top too.

The easiest way of fucking his pussy is the doggy-style, but the most meaningful position is the missionary (or the girly position).  Lifting his legs backward, putting his ankles on your shoulders or around your back is the loveliest position.

My favorite position, to start, is lying face down, legs together while Mistress K. straddles my legs while she fucks my ass.  In the end, I always ask for Mistress K. to fuck me in the missionary position because it is the most intimate way to be fucked.  I get to stare at her face and into her eyes as an orgasm builds (hopefully), and in the end, we can share an incredibly intimate moment.

"You can both look at each other.  You look at him under your control, and he looks at you in control of him.  Having strong muscles would have a great effect on his psychology as he'll see your muscles tightening and loosening while you take him."

Being fucked by my Wife is the single most effective way for me to be immersed in subspace, followed closely by punishment spankings.  

Being allowed to be of service to my Wife is the most beautiful place to be.  

Some day ... when we both really want to get fucked.

Have a beautiful day and thank you for stopping by.

Sickness and Surgery

 

Since January 2nd, our house has been filled with refugees from the LA fire mess, sickness (flu), and minor surgery for me.  These have conspired to keep me away from the keyboard.  

As a result, not too much fun, WLM stuff to report on since the time.  I didn't want too much time to elapse without putting something here.  I'll apologize in advance for harvesting the low-hanging apple by posting pictures here that make me horny or fantasize about.

This picture is hot because, well ... because it is.  Before we got sick and invaded by California refugees, I had asked Mistress K. to wear the strap-on around the house during the day to get intimately acquainted with the sensation of having a cock.  I was inspired by a blog (here) from my friend Emma over at Evolving Your Man.  Anyway, Mistress K. said that she would do that and that it sounded like it would be fun, but the circumstances of the past few weeks have prevented it.  Something to look forward to though.

Gotta be sure, sometimes doubly sure.  You know our minds expand as we get older.  LOL

Yeah ... this says it all.  

One of my favorite things that happens in my marriage is when my Wife decides she wants my mouth on her glorious pussy, and then just pushes me down.  Not asking.  Not flirting. Not insinuating.  Pushing!

This is what Mistress gave me right after when she was especially pleased with my behavior.  "Good boys get treats.", as she likes to say.

A spanking really doesn't begin until those white marks disappear.  I suspect that Mistress K. will feel like catching-up is in order when circumstances allow (next few days).

Because this is so true!  Successful marriages DO require discipline!

Love this.

Nothing sexier than a Mistress Wife that knows what she wants, and makes it happen.

Don't tell her I put this one here.  It's been a while since Mistress K. told me to be her Master for a few hours.  I want to again ... soon. I used to be the Dominant one.

There's no question.  I'm a lucky husband.  

I have other things that make me horny or that I fantasize about, but I'm just too shy to talk about them.  I need to go continue to recover from my minor surgery.  I'll be back soon.

Once Again Empty

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Yup, We're Still Alive and Still Loving Life

 

Inspired by this woman and her husband, Tom Allen.

Greetings friends.  It has been a while since we all got together here, and man ... I've missed y'all.  There are multiple reasons for my being away since March 2024, but when it's all said and done, I don't have any better excuse other than life has been especially busy.  Those things keeping us busy were both big and small but plentiful.  I don’t know about you, but when things are crazy, it takes some of the energy necessary to write here, and I just didn’t have it.

All that said, things couldn’t be better for us on the life, love, and WLM fronts.  I’m not going to take the time to wade back through all of the previous posts to try and determine where we were/are in our journey, but suffice it to say, it’s better than ever.  I really just want to get back to blogging here about our day-to-day lives and how wonderful our chosen lifestyle has been in our marriage.  I’ll hit some of those as they come to mind.

NO … Mistress K. still does not cuckold me, and she has no desire to do so … yet.  I say ‘yet’ because I always say yet.  I always say ‘yet’ because I know, and more importantly, so does Mistress K., that doing so will always be her prerogative should she someday wake up and want to.  If that were to happen, we would have very lengthy, deeply profound conversations about whether or not we’d go that route. 

She still requires that I am caged 24/7/365.  We each love how being caged full-time has enhanced our WLM, and she has no interest in changing that.  At the beginning of the full-time caging, I would be let to cum.  Since Mistress K. has limited my orgasms to 3-4 per year (usually a ruined orgasm), it wasn’t too much trouble to occasionally remove the cage for the purpose of allowing me to orgasm.  Then, one time, as a reward for good behavior, she let me out of the cage and allowed me to penetrate her, make love to her to the point of full orgasm, unrestricted without having to stop to ask for permission.  It was an amazing treat and something I’ll never forget.  Well, it seems that she felt my behavior after that was subpar, and she was convinced that the reason was because I was let out of my cage for the purpose of cumming.  She decided then that until further notice, my orgasms would only be allowed while I was securely caged.  In other words, exclusively (well, almost) ruined orgasms.  By the way, “further notice” has yet to arrive. 

With that in mind, the default way we have penetrative sex has evolved beautifully.  As a default, we will have penetrative sex one of two ways, and both of them involve one of us putting on the strap-on harness and fucking the other.  The only real reason I believe Mistress K. would even consider fucking another man would be because she wasn’t able to get fucked long and hard like she likes it.  In fact, when Mistress K. made the decision that I would be caged 24/7/365 (mostly), and that my orgasms were limited to only while being caged, the very first question that came out of my mouth was …” Does this mean you are going to fuck other guys?”.  She said absolutely not.  But it did mean that when she wanted to be fucked, I would be wearing the harness and then she would decide which one of her “boyfriends” (dildos) would be fucking her. 

The other way we have penetrative sex is when she pegs me.  As you imagine, being caged at all times and having my orgasms limited to only while being caged, I began to crave prostate orgasms.  As a result, when I get horny, I tend to behave like a wanton slut, begging to be fucked.  Mind you, just because I behave like a horny slut, begging to be fucked, it doesn’t mean I get what I want.  Sometimes, I do, but more often than not, she denies me and makes me wait.  We both always enjoyed teasing and denial, and this style of it has become more normal.  I still have to “earn her cock”, like any good slut does.  On the rare occasions, I am let out of my cage (other than metal detectors, during family events, etc.), it’s usually because she wants to watch me masturbate (without cumming) while she is masturbating or because I am required to masturbate to completion immediately before receiving a really harsh and painful spanking.  Those are the worst!

Speaking of spanking.  YES, I am still soundly spanked for anything I do that displeases Mistress K. in any way.  She doesn’t need a reason to spank me, of course, but I am usually soundly spanked as punishment for being lazy, inattentive, grumpy, or forgetting a ritual or chore.  Example, the other day, I came home from work.  When I walked in the door she was standing there, arms crossed, not happy.  “Take off all of your clothes.  Right there where you stand.”  Once naked, she walked toward our big closet and said, “Follow me.”  Once in the closet she had me place my hands on the island in the middle and put my head down on the cold marble.  She immediately started paddling me with a pickleball paddle that she likes to use for this purpose.  “I am not happy.  Do you know why you are being punished slave?”  No Mistress, I said.  “How many times have I told you that when dry cleaning gets delivered, we DO NOT hang our clothes on wire hangers?  I’ve even told you that the dry cleaning remains hanging here until I can transfer the clothes to the hangers I want to be used, so that you didn’t even have to worry about it.  Yet there they are, put away and hanging on wire hangers.”  She resumed paddling me hard and it hurt.  When she punishment spanks me, she will continue until I tell her that I understand what my infraction was, tell her that it will not happen again, and then apologize to her.  The spanking intensifies and continues if she feels like any of those are insincere.  When she was done I was ordered to stand and face her.  I knew to kneel in front of her, wrap my arms her waist, lay my head in her tummy, apologize again and then thank her for my spanking.  She squatted down so her eyes met mine.  She said that if it happens again, I will be masturbating in front of her till I cum and then get the kind of spanking that only begins when the tears start and then be put to bed early.   ‘Yes Mistress, I understand.’  Trust me, it will never happen again.

That might make Mistress K. seem like a crazy person.  I assure you; she is not.  She had a moment of intense frustration, not necessarily related to the clothes on the wrong hangers, and as is her right, was able to vent on me.

We still have our other beloved rituals.  I’m kept naked in the house when we are alone.  I must deliver coffee to her bedside every morning.  I must ask permission to remove my cage in the shower to clean it and things down there, even though it is necessary.  If she has me plugged, I must ask permission to remove it before bedtime (she doesn’t always say yes).

Anyway, this is getting awfully fucking long, so I’ll end this post here.  I’d love to hear your comments. 

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays everybody!