Do Happy Couples Masturbate?

I came across this little article that discusses whether "Happy Couples Masturbate".  Here it is:

https://www.yahoo.com/style/do-happy-couples-masturbate-110287879458.html

I wasn't much surprised from reading the article.  These types of articles reveal similar information each time one is published.  People discussing how natural it is and that every does it (and we do).  The more there is "conversation" going on about sexual things that were once only discussed behind closed doors or in Penthouse Forum articles, the better as far as I am concerned.   I've also noticed an increases in titillating articles such as this one since the movie depicting America's latest obsession  came out over the weekend.  Again, I think it's nice.

One thing that you'll notice in the article is that when describing happy couples that masturbate, they talk only about the woman that masturbates, again in the context of a "happy couple" .... whatever that might be.  In fact, in this article and others, they point out that the more unhappy the marriage is, the more frequently the man in the relationship will masturbate.  I wholeheartedly agree that this little factoid is true.  I'll even suggest that one could turn that a around a bit and be just as accurate ..... the more the man masturbates, the more unhappy his marriage becomes."  Kind of a "chicken-and-the-egg" syndrome.  It's very likely in my opinion that they are both entirely true and have a direct correlation to each other.

Over the weekend, Mistress and I were talking and extoling the virtues of our relationship.  We were both prideful and beaming about how wonderfully our FLM has gone and that we are so much more in love, in lust and in tune with each other than we have ever been before.  We are connecting on a level so much deeper than either of us could've imagined when we first fell in love, and even when we first crossed over into our FLM.  I firmly believe that none of this would've been possible if it wasn't for one core principle in our Female Led Marriage ....... a complete and utter prohibition for me to masturbate without approval from Mistress, and under the direct supervision of Mistress.

Be fore our FLR, I masturbated at least three times a week.  Usually in the shower and it was usually impromptu.  Each time, in the back of my mind, I knew that I was letting some of my lust, some of my passion, wash away and down the shower drain.  I wouldn't hide it from my (then vanilla) wife.  We were open about things then too.  I masturbated not because I was unhappy with my wife. Not at all.  I did it because I could, whenever I was horny I just did it.  You know, "if it feels good do it" mentality.  Little did I know then that what I was doing was depriving my marriage, my wife and myself from the otherwise available sexual energy that was now just swirling down the drain every other day or so in the shower. 

This very topic was one of the main reasons for my desire to formerly ask my wife if she would consider becoming my Mistress Wife.  I am prohibited from touching myself sexually in any way, even in the tiniest way.  I am only allowed to touch any part of my body in a non-sexual way and the obvious sexual parts of my body I am only allowed to touch for naturally occurring things or to clean them.  Mistress trusts me implicitly in this regard and I have never even considered breaking that trust.  Knock on wood.  To do so would mean enforced chastity (cock cage) or severe punishments, or both.

All this being said and with the complete loss of freedom to touch myself sexually, and with the rare orgasms, sometimes rare teasing and denial, I have never had better more loving sex in my entire life.  I couldn't be happier and the true, down in the soul, deep, deep love that I genuinely have for my Goddess Queen Wife has never been better.

Have a great week everybody!

We had our conversation

In my post from yesterday, I discussed how Mistress was in no mood for sex, even though we had been apart for almost 6 full days.  She asked me to put my cock inside for a few second before I left for the office, I think more for my benefit than hers, then she sent me off to work wearing her rapidly drying juices on my cock.

Mistress and were able to get together for dinner last while the kids were occupied for a couple of hours.  We discussed a number of things, got caught up after being apart over the weekend and we discussed things directly related to our FLM.  It was "our meeting" that we regularly have from time to time to review how things are going and to discuss things in our future.  During the day yesterday, 45 minutes after Mistress sent me to work with her pussy juices drying on me, it seems that Mistress was able to shed her "funk" she was and she found herself "incredibly horny".  She told me about how she went into our significantly large walk-in closet and had incredible sex with herself.  She got the toy bag out and used the large dildo on her pussy, the butt on her butt and the vibrator on her clit.  If I had been lucky enough to witness it, I would give you the details but suffice it to say, she had sex with herself with "reckless abandon", as she put it.  She said it was awesome and I was rock hard hearing her say that she did that.  I'll be honest, I was a bit surprised (and so very much excited) to hear that she used the butt plug for her play.  Yummy.

Anyway, during our "regular meeting" we discussed a number of things.  In no particular order we talked about:

• Our upcoming Vows Renewal Ceremony that we are going to have on our 15th wedding anniversary that occurs next month.  Among the things to be decided on are the actual vows each of us will say, what Mistress will be wearing during the ceremony,  what I will be wearing (if anything) during the ceremony, and what we shall do to symbolize our union in the ceremony (placing of a collar, locking or unlocking of a chastity cage, or ???).  In the coming weeks dear readers, I'll be asking you for your input on this ceremony that we are both looking forward to.
• Punishments.  In recent blogs I said that I would mention to Mistress that I felt that my punishments needed to be more frequent and more severe in order for them to have the desired effect.  That being to deter the abhorrent behavior that caused disappoint for Mistress.  I mentioned that I was sure to regret telling Mistress that the pain she needed to inflict upon me needed to more significant, knowing that the idea of it is way better and more palatable than when it would actually happen, but I felt that if Mistress was going to use spankings as punishment that they should probably be (interrupt ... Mistress just called me into the room by saying "lover, come here".  I'll update in a later post when I find out what she wants) significant and more of a deterrent to abhorrent behavior.  Like I said, I'll probably regret having brought this up to her when I am naked and my ass is on fire.  
• Evolution.  We both discussed how each of us have evolved since we began our acknowledged FLM relationship.  I had mentioned that I had been quietly tried very hard to not "top from the bottom" and as such I have learned to accept, with genuine pleasure, any decision Mistress may have.  Rather than hoping she would decide one way or another, and then be disappointed when she didn't go with what I had hoped for, I have learned to accept with pleasure and duty whatever it is she may have decided.
• I explained to her the phenomenon in me tat whenever I fantasize about sex, it absolutely always includes her. Without exception, every time I think about sex, even forbidden fantasy sex, it always includes Mistress and almost always ends with her being sexually satisfied.  Before our FLM, I would have sex fantasy that included my wife, sure, but not always.  Now, without even thinking about it, my Mistress is my sole source of sexual desire and pleasure in my fantasies and real life.  Mistress truly does own my sex.
• After Mistress revealed that she had "reckless abandon sex" with herself earlier in the day, we talked about considering training me to be both chaste and denied frequent orgasms, but also getting better and better at being able to avoid ejaculations and orgasms longer in order to be able to fuck Mistress like she wants to be. 
• I had told Mistress that as time goes on, I worry less and less about her someday waking up and finding me to be weak and less of a man than she feels she would need to keep her satisfied.  She said in fact the opposite was true.  She mentioned that the only thing that would cause her to feel that way is if in some way I was to end up having sex with another man.  When I am in subspace, I will tell Mistress that I will do "anything" for her, but that it usually has an immediate caveat that says "except suck another mans cock" or some related thing.  Mistress and I agree that such a thing is a deal-breaker in our life and our marriage and that we shouldn't have to continuously say that because we both agreed and reaffirmed that it is not something that either of us would allow to happen.  Ever.  Also, aside from the other obvious "never-going-to-happens" like poop, or animals, or blood play, other things would be possible.  I feel utterly comfortable in Mistress pushing and testing our boundaries because I trust her with everything I have.

Although it wasn't discussed at dinner last night, Mistress did say that she wanted me to get for her a suction cup dildo.  Over the weekend I had found a picture and sent it to her.  here it is:

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A few minutes after sending her that picture, Mistress texted back and said "maybe you ought to get me one of those".  I replied with a very enthusiastic "yes Mistress" and went on to tell her how I got instantly hard when I read that text.  We texted back and forth on the topic with Mistress describing how she intended to use the suction cup dildo to be able to be fucked good like that while having my cock in her mouth.  I just love it when Mistress gets all slutty.  I asked her if she would go to the store with me to pick it out and she said yes. 

OK, everyone, bye for now.  I have to get ready to go to work.  I will post later on what Mistress wanted from me when she interrupted my typing earlier.  Have a great days everyone!