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Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Redheads - Part 2

A(nother) Tribute to Redheaded Women

Not too long ago I posted about my love for redheads here.  Why do I love redheads so much?  Because It's because I am alive!  Duh.  Don't misunderstand and get me wrong, there are plenty of exceptionally beautiful women with black (yum), brown and blond hair ... but redheads?  Yes .....

Anyway, I asked for readers to send pictures of their favorite sexy redheads for a follow up post.  This is that post.  Enjoy!

From paltego - 

This gorgeous picture of the beautiful Helen Mirren when she was 36.  She is as beautiful and sexy now as she was then.

From anonymous - (why are people anonymous?  Just make up a fake name like the rest of us and still actually be anonymous.  Just saying) - The incredible beauty of Isla Fisher.  Wow!


Another anonymous entry, the incomparable Julianne Moore.  There is special beauty that only middle-aged women have.  

From flrfollower on Tumblr, an unknown beauty -


Anonymous sent this one in.  Gorgeous!


From from blogging friend Robert_Anthony, there were 9 pictures submitted.  Thank you my friend.  These are my two favorites - 


From yet another anonymous contributor, the gorgeous Connie Britton - 


From still yet another anonymous (sheesh, come on people) ... Do you like super tough strong women?  Especially strong redheads?  If you haven't watched the show Yellowstone ... do it right awayif for no other reason than this beautiful, strong, sexy woman.  Kelly Reilly - 


Last, but certainly not least, I neglected to include this stunning redhead in my original post.  So feminine, so beautiful, Nicole Kidman - 



Thank you all for playing along.  Feel free to keep the pictures coming.  subhubphx@gmail.com



Sunday, January 17, 2021

Redheads - Part 1 (hopefully)

A Tribute to Redheaded Women

"Once in his life, every man is entitled to fall madly in love with a redhead."   -   Lucille Ball

I did a post a while ago about redheads here.  You may know that Mistress K. is a gorgeous natural redhead, which clearly explains my affinity for redheads.  Funny too, because before I met Mistress K., redheads did nothing for me.  Since then?  Holy shit ....... redheads!

"You either like redheads or you are wrong"  -  Unknown

Recently my blog friend Diane J. over at To Love, Honor & Obey did two consecutive posts specifically featuring beautiful redheads here and here.  However unlikely, I'm going to go ahead and assume she did that on purpose ... just for me ... because she knows how much I love a particular redheaded woman.  OK, probably not, but whatever ... it's my imagination.  It inspired me to want to do another post honoring the most beautiful women in the world - Redheads!

Helen Mirren.  One of the sexiest woman alive.  She counts as a redhead because I once saw a picture of her with red hair.  So yeah, it counts.

There are two people in this picture.  One is a stunningly beautiful woman, and the other is a very, very lucky man.  I'll bet it's her very well behaved husband enjoying a treat she's offered him for good behavior.

"The sun on a brunettes looks red.  The sun on a redhead hair looks like heaven on earth"  -   Unknown


Beautiful Laura Prepon!  Rawr!

"Redheads are flamingos in a flock of pigeons"  -  Unknown


I've often encouraged Mistress K. to take on a redhead girl submissive so they could do things together like shop, do each other's hair, and other things like ....


Why is this "Part 1" you ask?  Well, I ask you to send pictures of redheads that you think are sexy, so I can do Part 2 with your submissions.  Shit, that's if I get any.  Please, I hope you will.  If you, please send them to subhubphx@gmail.com and reference this post.  

"Redheads are not the kind of women you should put on speakerphone"  -   Unknown

Thank you Diane from Love, Honor & Obey for the inspiration! 

P.S.  Here is a few more gratuitous additional sexy pictures of redheads ....






Even with a mask on, redheads are yummy.  OK, yes, you're right, well mostly all women are yummy with masks on!

Thursday, January 14, 2021

Punish Immediately


"Punishments are a very effective tool in a FLR. In fact, I would say a punishment is very powerful when done right. Punishing your husband is essential for keeping the FLR strong. When you administer a punishment, it lets him know there are consequences for bad behavior and it also brings a fierce reality to his submission to you. When he faces the consequences doled out by you, it sends a clear message that this is not all fantasy and that you have authority over him. In my opinion, when you punish your husband and he accepts it, it has a real effect on his psyche which elevates your authority over him and pushes him deeper into submission to you."

-   Mz Kaylee - Femdom Think Tank - November 29, 2017

Most people will agree that the best time to administer an earned punishment is right NOW.  Right when the infraction occurs.  As much as that might be preferable, it's not always feasible in a WLM/FLR with kids in the house. I mean really, who wants to explain to the kids what that sound was coming from the bedroom?  So what to do?

Mistress K. will usually tell me that I have a punishment spanking coming when there is time AND the privacy to properly administer the spanking, without the prying ears in the house.  That works out pretty well.  But there are times when she feels the need to immediately administer punishment, and when that happens ... it's off to the closet.

We're lucky in that we have a large walk-in closet with a door, that is at the opposite end of the bedroom door, on the far end of the house.  She will point and i now to go into the bedroom, turn on the TV to drown out the noise, go into the closet, retrieve her paddle and then lower my pants.  A swift dose of justice and we are done.  Often times, Mistress will tell me that the "quickie" punishment she just gave doesn't count as the full punishment, which will come when we have the house to ourselves.

Lately though, Mistress K. was inspired by a recent blog post my Mz. Kaylee from Femdom Think Tank where she describes the need for immediate, silent punishment which comes in the form of corner time.  Corner time in this house means, go into the bedroom, lower my pants to bare my bottom and stand or kneel in the corner until she has decided that I had enough.  It sucks!  I'd much rather endure the 5-10 minutes of my butt being reddened than spending 10-30 minutes in a corner.  

This post was inspired by an email I received from a reader named Mark.  Nice guy.  Seems he and his girlfriend have been in a FLR for 3 or so years and are about to move in together, and are looking for creative ways to be able to administer immediate punishment while there are kids in the house, and are looking for ideas to accomplish that.  Other than what I said above, i don't have any other ideas.  Do you?  I'd love to hear them and so would Mark and his girlfriend.

Thanks for stopping by.  As always, I'd love to hear your thoughts, comments and questions.

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Saturday, January 9, 2021

While waiting for the Jail Bird to arrive

a few weeks ago, on a whim, knowing that the Jail Bird won't arrive until mid February, Mistress K. did some some shopping.  She cam across this:

It's a very heavily weighted ball stretcher.  "This looks nice.  I'd like to see see you in this." and called me over to look at it on her iPad.  She looked at me, smiled and hit the "purchase" button.  Then she sent me back to what I was doing.  Chores.

Well it arrived yesterday.  This is what it looks like on:


It was a little clumsy to put on at first, but eventually it was securely screwed in place.   Immediately i knew it was going to be comfortable, and it was.  

I've worn ball stretchers in the past that were either neoprene with a velcro closure or leather with a cinching strap.  The feeling of tenderly and safely stretching the scrotum is hard to describe, but it is wonderful.

The added weight of the heavy metal means that it is felt at all times when wearing it.  So far at least.  I'm only on day two.  And the feeling is incredible.  When Mistress K. got home from work and I told her it arrived and I was wearing it, she giggled and pulled me into our bedroom and locked the door (kids in the house) so she could inspect it.  She absolutely loved it ... and so do I.  

Who knew?







Monday, January 4, 2021

Looking Back ... Looking Forward

I won't prattle on about the obvious things that we all experienced over the past year.  We can all agree it's been shitty.  The shittiness had a unique and individual affect on each of us, of course.  As shitty as it was, there were silver linings that could've only revealed themselves during such shitty times.  

Yes, this will be one of those loathesome looking back/looking forward posts.  Hopefully it doesn't bore the living shit out of you and that you might be willing to share some of your looking back/looking forward things of interest.  Even (or especially) if they are only of interest to you.

Looking back:

  • I am one of two people that own my company (85 employees).  Since March, 2020, I have been working entirely from home, with the exception of 4 visits during that time to sign that needed to be signed right then.  Perhaps 5 hours total time spent in my office.  
  • Being at home almost exclusively during that time has had a dramatic and beneficial effect on on our WLM.
  • Mistress K. has continued to work almost exclusively at her office every (work) day while I have been at home because the nature of what she does requires her to be in the presence of co-workers and office machines.  
  • Being at home has allowed me to engage with internet/blog friends, old and new, much, much more than would otherwise be possible.  As such, I have found myself engaged in stimulating and intellectual conversation in many aspects of D/s, WLM/FLR, chastity, orgasm control, semen retention, and other associated topics along the way.  Many of which are activities that Mistress K. and I haven't or likely wouldn't engage in.  Topics such as cuckolding, sissification, feminization, non-monogamy (ethical and otherwise), consuming semen, etc.....
  • Around the end of July, my relationship with Mistress K. took what has turned out to be a dramatic turn ... for the better.  Much better!
  • With me physically being at home every day, I began to find myself with the desire (and the time) to do the kinds of things that would naturally propel our WLM in the direction of growth and deepened purpose.  Every day, I am showered, shaved and smelling "pretty" for Mistress K. within one hour prior to her arrival home from work.
  • I became an expert at laundry, house cleaning and other non-sexual things that made Mistress K. very happy when she arrived home from a hard day at the office.  I mean who doesn't enjoy coming home to a clean house, a glass of wine and freshly showered, shaved and eager submissive husband?  All of this was on my own, and without being asked.  I know, right?  The added bliss in Her life that is associated with the added comfort in her life, loving attention and devotion sparked an additional fire in her that allows her to find deepened comfort in her Dominant role.  The combination of these factors has brought us even closer and more happy than we were before ... and we were very happy and close before.
  • I've found myself somewhat immersed in the ongoing conversations in some of my favorite blogs to follow, which has led to many of the deep and thoughtful conversations about all of the various topics above.  
  • Sunday morning readings - Much to my disappointment, Mistress K. had always been resistant to reading and wading through all of the WLM content that the internet has to offer.  After asking her for umpteenth time if she would join me in my journey and relationships with internet content and friends, She came up with a great idea.  I would print out those items that I would come across during the week that I thought she would enjoy knowing about, including those topics of things that we don't currently participate in. 
  • I now have punishment panties.  These are panties that I am required to put on immediately prior to receiving a punishment.  Not unlike the panties and the description depicted by Diane J. in her post about punishment panties here.
  • My spanking punishments are now deeper, harder and more impactful.  In other words ... they fucking hurt!  This, in and of itself has been a beneficial upgrade to our lifestyle.

Looking Forward:

  • Mistress K. has decided that she will be significantly cutting back on work, up to and including working from home on a permanent basis.  Yay !!!!  She doesn't have to work for financial reasons.  She works because it of course stimulates the mind and she enjoys it.  Well, let's say she enjoyed it.  Because she is so awesome at what she does, more and more and more and more customers and people have become so reliant on her that her job has entered the territory where it becomes a choice of priorities.  To continue as she is, she will have to choose that essentially everything else in her personal life will be secondary. Everything ... and everybody.  Which is not an option for her (or me, but it's not about me)
  • WLM Boot Camp.  We have every intention of engaging in a weekend (or week) long Boot Camp.  A WLM Boot Camp is intended (at least for us) to enhance and significantly amplify EVERY aspect and component of our lifestyle.  Her Dominance.  My submission.  Punishments.  Ritual. Devotion. Punishment. Exploration.  Punishment.  Did I mention punishment?  In other words ... limits will be tested.  Spanked to tears kind of things.  I can't wait to report on this.
  • An acknowledged intention to continue our journey intensity and grow our relationship.  What does that mean exactly?  I don't know either but we are both very excited.


  • Mistress K. is a very private person when it comes to our lifestyle.  There is literally only one other person in the world that is aware of the nature and scope of our WLM.  One of her very best friends that lives in another state.  That said, they don't really talk much about our relationship and as such, Mistress K. does not have an outlet to talk with another human about our lifestyle.  We hope to be able to change that this year somehow.  I am hopeful that She/we will be able to befriend someone nearby well enough to allow there to be interaction with like minded people (another couple perhaps) to be able to openly share our lifestyle.  None of this is code for looking for another couple to have sex with, but rather another person or couple that is intelligent, mindful and indeed like minded enough to allow for the freedom for us to exist as Domme and sub with.  Whatever activities that may or may come from such a friendship would be entirely up to Mistress K. of course.
  • Mistress K. has informed me that she is (and has been) systematically training me to assume most of the domestic chores within the house.  She made no secret of the fact that her daily instructions will (and have been) more increased in both detail and frequency of required tasks.  Tasks will be completed and rewarded, or they won't and there will be punishment. 

    Rewards can look like this: (thank you Emma for finding this GIF)


    Punishments can look like this:



  • Mistress K. has decided that she wants me to be in a chastity cage more frequently.  She suspended the use of my cage (CB6000) mostly because of the distasteful hygiene aspect of the current cage.  As such, it has been relegated to punishment purposes only.  On New Year's Day, I ordered a new Mature Metal Jail Bird cage at Mistress K.'s instruction. 



    She feels that this particular cage will reduce her hygiene concerns enough for her to be able to put her husband in it more often, and for longer periods of time.  She really does enjoy having me wear nothing but my cage when we have alone time in the house, which is increasing as time goes on and we are nearing an empty nest.

Favorite blogs and bloggers I like in no particular order:

  • Evolving Your Man.  Fascinating and wonderful blog site hosted by a very smart and lovely woman named Emma.  This site expertly and intellectually covers many, many topics such as caged chastity, orgasm control, Femdom, FLR/WLM, ethical non-monogamy, orgasm control and the common-sense and logical approach to how these things can and do exist in everyday real-life.  It is also very entertaining.  To participate on this blog, you must register as a member (free, really, free) but it is well worth it to do so.
  • Femdom Think Tank   A wonderful resource for practicable and useful information about a loving and caring WLM hosted by another lovely woman named Mz Kaylee about having and growing a successful and mature WLM in a "normal" existence.  Mz Kaylee and her husband Thomas seem a lot like many of us out here in the WLM kink world .... everyday, normal, couple nextdoor type.  Mz Kaylee has tons of wisdom and advice.  She delivers that wisdom and advice in a way that is useful and entertaining.
  • The Gentle Domme.  "Education and Erotica for Sensual Dommes and their subs".  A bit of everything here and not necessarily things that apply to Mistress K. and I.  I like this blog because the host (I don't actually know her name) because she is fun, funny, articulate smart and is one of those "takes-no-bullshit" types that unapologetically tells it like it is, or at least like it is to her.
  • To Love, Honor & Obey.  This is a blog that encompasses many of the activities that Mistress K. and I don't participate in, but I enjoy it immensely nonetheless.  Why?  Because the host ... Diane J. is "wicked smart", wise, funny unapologetic about having built a beautiful life for herself and another one of those "take-no-bullshit" type people that I just love and adore.   I think she might be a Rocket scientist, or big shot lawyer in a big firm, or some other genius level thing.  In any event she is clearly a leader of people and I love that shit!
I encourage you check these sites out if you haven't already.  

Sorry for long epistle.  That was a word a word I learned last year (*smile).  Please, I'd love to hear about things past, present and future in your life.  Leave a comment below.

Happy New Year everyone and thank you for stopping by.