What is it for you that makes it really real?

If someone were to ask you what the cornerstones, the anchor-points of a true Female Led Relationship were for you, what for you would those be?  To me, it is a combination of several very important aspects.  Without getting into the minutia of the intimate details, if i were asked that question about my life and my lifestyle with my Mistress, this is what i would say:

1. GENUINE PLEASURE FROM BEING THE SOURCE OF PLEASURE:
   
   i get true GENUINE pleasure from being able to give Her pleasure in whatever form she needs or wants.  I'm sure there are many relationships that operate under guise of a an FLR when in fact it is a façade and more a way for the male sub to get his kink needs met.  Those needs usually come from fantasy based in what they've defined in their head from viewing standard porn.  My blogging friend The Suburban Domme explains this concept way more eloquently that i ever could so i encourage you to check out her blog.  It's excellent  http://thesuburbandomme.com/
2. ORGASM CONTROL AND OWNERSHIP:
   
   i think it is uber important to feel enough trust, love and respect for your Dominant to be absolutely willing to give up control of your sex to that person.  Things like;  When and if you may allowed to orgasm .... The use/ownership of your body, in particular the parts of your body used for the sexual pleasure of my Mistress (cock and balls, bottom and anus, mouth, fingers, etc.), at her whim, at Her discretion anytime She wants, for whatever reason She decides and whenever She decides.  When contemplating bringing my desire to submit to my Wife 2 years ago or so, in an otherwise loving, vanilla marriage, i knew that i had to come to grips with the idea that it was truly in order to please Her and not just to get my kink needs met.
3. PUNISHMENT:
   
   i think that it is important that there is punishment in the relationship for anything that my Mistress may deem punishable.  Punishments come in many varieties and they differ greatly with each couple, but the core purpose of punishment is to correct a behavior of the submissive that displease the Mistress in any way she decides, for whatever reason she decides.  In my little slice of heaven, punishments usually come in the form of a spanking.  Sometimes the spankings really, really hurt, and other times Mistress may use them to make a point without feeling as though She needs to inflict too much pain.  Sometimes the punishment is something as simple as making me wear a cage on my cock, or denying me sexual pleasures that she knows i really crave/enjoy.  In any event, i believe the punishments are very healthy way for Mistress to be able to correct a wrong.  For me, it allows me to be able to rid myself of the shame i tend to carry by the mere knowledge that i have displeased Mistress. 

These things are general and they are just my opinions and essential to what my Mistress and i believe are important in our lives.  It's not my intention here to tell or suggest to anyone else what they should do or not do, or how they should live their Wife Led Marriage.  That's for the individual couple to decide. Nor is it my intention to attempt to run a giant of things that might otherwise attempt to define things in this category or that category.  mMy intention is to simply speak on the anchor points, the foundational similarities that go into the relationships we each have.

 

i love my Wife and i love my life and very much love the journey that W/we are on together.  I truly do love hearing about how others make their FLM journeys through life.  So tell me, what are some of things you do in your FLM life that you feel are the conerstones of your successful relationships?  I'd love to hear from you.

 

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