Misbehavior ... it happens. When it happens in my house, I get punished. But what exactly constitutes misbehavior? Yes, there are clear examples of what misbehavior is, but there are often subtle, less obvious.
On Thursday night, Mistress K. and I got into a bit of a snit. She had made plans to meet a dear old friend of her mother (passed away) that was traveling through Phoenix and wanted to get together for breakfast on Saturday morning. She also made plans to meet a couple of girlfriends (not that kind) from high school that also happened to be in town on Saturday in the afternoon for catch-up talk, wine and all the fun stuff that comes from those kinds of reunions. She had told about the visit with friends a week previous, but I had forgotten she had told me.
When I asked how long she would be with her friends on Saturday, she said "I'm meeting them at 2pm and I don't know when I'll be home." I got whiney and pouty and I spoke in a disrespectful manner to her in expressing my displeasure with that answer. Why? Well, not in the way of an excuse, but Mistress has been swamped at work for months. The kind of swamped that meant she was going to the office when it was dark, and coming home when it was dark ... even in the summertime when the days are loooong.
I said something insensitive and selfish like 'so, on 2 of the 7 days I actually get to spend some time with you, you "decided" (yeah, I did they quotey thing with my fingers) that you are going to allow unknown circumstances decide whether or not we'll be together on Saturday?" There were other things, but you get the idea of what a needy, whiney little bitch I was being.
We (she) sorted things out relatively quickly and I apologized. The rest of the night was a tiny bit tense but we were lovey dovey for the rest of the evening . The next morning, instead of receiving the Cock Therapy (here) I was expecting when she told me to remove my pants and pointed to the ground, I got a real hard spanking. She said "I will not be talked to like that", and proceeded to administer the correction I rightfully deserved. When it was over, like always, all was good. I helped her into her panties from my knees and prepared her travel coffee and her car for her departure to the office.
One of the tenets of our relationship is that when she makes a decision, it is final and does not (should not) require any scrutiny. It is at the very core of the amount and type of trust I have in her. I wouldn't have it any other way!
Well let's hope you learned your lesson. That was pretty insolent on your part.
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I did. I learned a very valuable lesson. A benchmark in our relationship even. She decides ... nuff said.
DeleteI have found that as the years go by the goalpost of what constitutes misbehavior has moved. Things that just a few years ago would have passed unnoticed are now grounds for punishment. I find myself playing my words through my head before I say them on the chance they may be misconstrued. At this point she demands my respect. At times, like you, I forget my place and she finds a way to remind me. Stay safe-Alan
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment Alan. Nice to "see" you.
DeleteI understanding that the definition of misbehavior can and does change. That is clearly Her prerogative. This was odd because her final decision has never been something that was in question. What was different about it is that neither of us were able to recognize my blatant disregard of that fact when it happened. Respecting a decision that she has made without protest and with enthusiasm on my part has always been front and center on the table.
From mistakes we grow. We grew a little.
My wife misbehavior standards for me are well defined. I will get that 'Look', or 'Young Man', or 'Get to the bedroom Now'. I end up over her lap, bare bottom and feel the sting of her hand at first, then the dreaded bath brush, which she must get. Jack
ReplyDeleteAn ouchy realisation sub hub. Glad all was resolved:)
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Roz
Thank you Roz. It always get resolved and for that I am grateful.
DeleteI married a woman who knows that spankings are what I need, and I accept. I also have learned that spankings will take place then and now, no waiting. If I misbehave at my mother-in-law home, she is a widow, I will be spanked, but it could be my mother-in-law doing the spanking. At times I have been spanked by both. I spend time facing the wall prior to the second spanking, but these times are rare. Always no matter whom is doing the spanking, it is always over their lap, always on bare bottom and always they bare the bottom. Jack
ReplyDeleteHi Jack and thanks for stopping. What an exciting dynamic. I've never been spanked in front of someone else, let along by someone else. Is spanking all that your Mother In Law does with you?
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