Reviewing the day in my mind, I reminded Mistress that I was still due for a punishment for having ejaculated without permission. It is part of my duties as her sub to help her keep things top of mind, even if that means reminding her everyday. She was in that dazed comfort just before falling a sleep and when she heard me remind her, she moaned in delight and then said "I really like spanking you much harder ... because it makes your punishments more effective." GULP! I literally gulped! Then I said ... "Yes Mistress, I agree. Even though I absolutely don't enjoy hard-hard swats, you are absolutely right, they are more effective in correcting my behavior"
My mind went immediately to the thing that has been on my mind since she said. I have been mentally preparing for my pending punishment for god knows how long now, and her comment only added to the need for me to mentally prepare more and better.
Btw, I don't know who that woman is in the picture, but every time I see a picture with her in it I feel like she is the epitome of a non nonsense dominant wife. I know it's just porn, but it's well done porn.
Be afraid, be very afraid Sub Hub. And in the end, all will be worth it.
ReplyDeleteI am sis, and know. Thanks for you support!
DeleteOh gosh...sorry you are still waiting:(
ReplyDeleteHang in there. xo
Thanks lg. Mistress' suggestion to mentally prepare has been such a good thing. Holy shit, I know the hell-fire is going to reain down but until it does, the birds are signing, the sun is shinning and the MLB baseball season is back. Life is good! *smile
DeleteNo, seriously, I do know harder, more serious spankings is what our relationship needs !
Life is good Sub Hub - Go Red Sox!
DeleteLife is so good K. So good!!! Go Tigers!
DeleteHi Sub Hub!
ReplyDeleteYeah, there are safe words..... I guess ;-) If she isn't taking you past your comfort and pain threshold zones, her heart might not be in it! Bu it doesn't look like you have that problem -LOL!
You're right, if she doesn't take me past those thresholds, no problem. A problem may be is that she now seems more eager than ever to find where those threshold are exactly.
DeleteKnowing punishment is coming and waiting for it can be worse than the punishment it's self. But it does sound like you will get it harder. When R gives me harder spanking the entire spanking is not harder but during the spanking she will say are you ready? I'll say yes Ma'am. Then she will tell me the number of harder spanks are coming like you will get 5 and they are hard. then she goes back to lighter spanking and later again says are you ready? That will go on during the entire spanking until she feels my punishment is over. Good luck friend.
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I think that Mistress has concluded that punishment spankings will be complete when she feels that it is over, and without any concern about anything else.
DeleteThanks for wishes of luck my friend.
Oh my, gulp is right! It sounds as though your Mistress is right though, and that you agree.
ReplyDeleteSorry you are still waiting. The waiting is so hard.
Hugs
Roz
She is right, of course. Mistress is always right and although the prospect of receiving significantly more pain to my bare ass, I know that the progression of our marriage requires that. For that I am so grateful that she loves me enough to do this.
DeleteThanks for the hugs Roz. XO
I agree there is mental anguish in waiting but I still believe fast and certain corrects the behavior more effectively.. Our minds play a trick on us when punishment is uncertain and delayed. We tell ourselves the consequences are remotely in the future instead of the next 5 minutes and we rationalize the behavior ( ejaculating without permission in this case) is worth it. The punishments I get on the spot or soon after the misbehavior are the ones that work best in correcting my behavior
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Hi Alan and thank you for taking the time to comment. I truly do appreciate it. Mistress K. and I both believe and agree that instantaneous correction (usually punishment spankings) are the preferred method for the very reasons you explained. Our lifestyle (kids especially) do not allow for much "alone we-time". Mistress has said that in case, there needs to be sufficient time alone for her to implement the punishment she says that I deserve. Hence the suggestion she gave me to mentally prepare for what eventually will happen!
DeleteThank you again Alan. I appreciate your stopping by!
Hi Sub Hub,
DeleteHope I don't come off as caustic, certainly didn't mean to do so. The lack of privacy is something all of us deal with and your wife's approach to it makes a lot of sense. In my first real disciplinary relationship some some time ago my then girlfriend established what we came to call the 24 hour rule. Basically it required her to administer the punishment within 24 hours of the offense or it would be remitted assuming I cooperated completely with her. There was a weasel clause in the agreement that the 24 hours could be extended if I agreed and sometimes it was extended several days. But something like a 24 hour rule or 48 hour rule established accountability for both of us and made it hard for us to avoid resolving issues once they arose
Alan.
No worries my friend. Not caustic at all.
DeleteFunny thing, Mistress K. And have a 48 hour rule. Essentially when she has declared that a punishable infraction, I am to do whatever necessary to accommodate her ability and time for the spanking. If, for any reason it doesn't in those 48 hours, it amounts to another punishable infraction. Our schedule has made that impossible recently so the 48 hour rule has been suspended temporarily. The punis occurs still however.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I really do appreciate it
A 48 hour rule where you are responsible for watching the clock and there are consequences if you don't. That is really a brilliant system that takes the pressure off the disciplinarian
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This really hit home for me ….
ReplyDelete"I really like spanking you much harder ... because it makes your punishments more effective."
When we first started dd, my wife had a female friend who was her mentor. My wife introduced punishment spankings that frankly were very ineffective. She simply could not spank hard enough and her hand would ache way before my bottom even hurt. Her mentor could not believe that she was ineffective at spanking me. That’s when she gave my wife a large spanking paddle and later a cane. Needless to say, the spankings became much more effective leading to sobbing and tears and …. improved behavior!
As much as it pains me (literally) to say this, i think you description is probably very common for FLM's in the beginning, and the transition to actual, herder, more meaningful spankings is part of the growth those relationships.
DeleteThank you so much for the wonderful comment.
There is something satisfying in knowing that you will endure what you both know will help your marriage grow in the right direction. I am also excited for you that your Mistress K is ready to bring you to the next level!
ReplyDeleteYour honest communication with your Mistress K about needing more intense punishment sessions is such a terrific example for other subs to hear. Topping from the bottom is always a concern but you are so very transparent in your love of your Mistress K and your true joy in pleasing her. You do not show any intent on trying to get your way or sneak in your own agenda.
Have you had an instance where you have very much disagreed with your Mistress K and how did you deal with that feeling?
Hi Pearl. yes indeed, there is definitely something satisfying and comforting in knowing that no matter what Mistress decides the severity of my punishments will (and it seems as though they are going to much more difficult to endure), I hold onto the joy of knowing that she is willing to do what is necessary for us to continue to grow in our relationship.
DeleteYes, of course, there have been occasions where I have very much disagreed with Mistress K. on things. Some of those might be arguably significant, but mostly they are just unnecessary emotionally fueled outbursts that come from a petulant husband. In our past vanilla life, I would've pouted and pressed the issue for hours or even days because of some silly need to end up being right. Now, I rapidly come to the conclusion that any petulance I may display is absolutely unacceptable considering the commitment I have made to her (and the vows that we exchanged). The time takes now for me to come to this realization is measure in minutes and always ends up with me genuinely apologizing and asking for her forgiveness.
There haven't been any occasions where I have very much disagreed with Mistress K. on any matters that are of significant importance. She is just so reasonable that it is just never happens ... so far. She was that prior to our committed FLM so it isn't a big leap for her now. Our lifestyle has made our interactions and time spent together to be of a much higher quality than either of us could've ever imagined.
Thanks as always Pearl. What a great question!
I think this is a positive development that she plans to give you harder spankings. It should make you feel more submissive and her more in control. Let's hope she doesn't stop until your ass is red and burning. And maybe she will use regular maintenance spankings so your new normal is a red ass. She obviously keeps taking your relationship to a new level and is becoming a very good, demanding Mistress. She is giving you what you want and crave and it's good for her, too.
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Thank you for your valuable input FD. Yes, I agree, she does keep taking our relationship to a new level of intensity and a pace that is sustainable. I love that about her.
DeleteI love this. Really.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy that you love it Rati Yue. Thank you for saying so.
DeleteThe suspense of waiting is probably far worse than the actual reality if the spanking
ReplyDeleteEven though the punishment promises to be the most severe yet, I have come to accept that it is what's necessary for our marriage and as such, I welcome it. That being said, yup, it's worse.
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