Recently I was out running errands and stopped by the drug store to get Mistress K. a few birthday cards. Of course Walgreens has plenty of meaningful and lovely cards that express the depth and type of love a man has for is wife in the vanilla world. But, they certainly don't have the kind of naughty cards that a submissive husband, who is madly in love with his Mistress Wife, could give to her on her birthday.
So, I left Walgreens and drove to an adult store called Fascinations that was conveniently on my way home. It was about 9:15 at night. I walked in to the sounds of young women laughing and having a giggle over something. When they came in to view, it was clear that there 3 girls, 2 of which worked at the store and one that was either their friend, or a customer or both. They were just 3 pals have a good time.
This chain of adult store is not the seedy, back-ally type of adult store. It is a respectable, dare I say neighborhood friendly kind of adult store. Very bright and well lit inside ... I think you know the type. I was asked by one of the girls that worked there if there was anything she could help me with. As per usual I said "no thank you" and walked deeper into the store to look for a suitable and FLM friendly birthday card that I could give to Mistress K. Then I stopped, turned around and walked back to the group of young ladies and told the clerk "yes, you can help me. I am looking for a card or even a small gift to give my Mistress on her birthday." Without skipping a beat she said "OK. Is this the you're married and you have a girlfriend kind of Mistress. Or the dominant woman kind of Mistress?" I simply answered "it's my wife". Again, without missing a beat, she said "oh, good for you!". Then she proceeded to tell me that their selection of cards was small at best and well I never did get a card that was submissive husband, Dominant wife based.
It was awesome though ... that feeling .... to stand there, in front of 3 strange young women, and openly declare that I was a submissive husband to my dominant wife. There was no shame even though I could detect a bit of wonderment on the faces of these 3 young women. I'm not sure if that wonderment wasn't relief that the guy who just walked past them a second ago, and now was walking up to them, wasn't trying to be creepy thinking that something sexy was going to happen with him and 3 girls in a porno store. *smile ..... Yes, granted, it was an environment that was obviously friendly, but for me, I had never really been able to do that .... and it was awesome!
I can't wait to tell Mistress K. about it (have to wait till her birthday gets here).
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Hi sub hub, wow, how awesome to be able to share, such a great feeling. It still took courage on your part, even given where you were. Good on you :) I love the reply when you said the card was for your wife. Shame you didn't find a suitable one.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to Mistress K. I know you will make sure she has a wonderful day :)
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Roz
Hello darling. I can always count on you and your kind words Roz. Thank you so much.
DeletePerhaps it took courage, but the great part about it was I had zero hesitation. It wasn't like I was sweating in the corner, drumming up the courage, it was a just a natural exchange. I guess there was some courage there, but ..... it was easy. Which is cool!
I will pass along your birthday wishes to Mistress K. for sure.
Happy Birthday to your Mistress! And.....GOOD FOR YOU! Yes, it IS emancipating to just be oneself. And 'shame' is often self-imposed. There is no inherent shame in living the life you want, and only regret in NOT doing so. Again, "congratulations" on being brave enough to be yourself.
ReplyDeleteThanks buddy for the kind words. It was super cool because in retrospect, there was no hesitation, no fear, no shame, etc. In fact, in the place of shame was pride. I do admit to standing there with a great deal of pride letting those young women know that I was a submissive husband, without fear (or shame) of them thinking I was some sort of limp dicked sissy. The words were what the words were ... and they were exchanged in my otherwise alpha, confident manner. It was like you said, emancipating!
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Being open in our sexuality is always freeing! Nice that you were able to do that.
ReplyDeleteThank you ...
DeleteHow Sweet!
ReplyDeleteMy birthday was yesterday (the 13th) and Shilo gave me a card that seemed more geared towards Sunshine than me, but we loved it.
Happy Birthday (belated) Miss Merry!
DeleteThank you! 56 seems to fit well.
DeleteBravo for being so outfight and honest! I am always made to feel comfortable in adult stores. the clerks have seen and heard it all. It's fun to watch the shoppers who are uncomfortable with the merchandise and awkward about asking for help.
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Hermione
Hi Hermione. I know exactly what you mean and to be fair, I was nervous about who might see me in there, or who I might run into while I was in there when I was younger ... now, these stores are in strip malls and are certainly more accepted in society.
DeleteThanks so much for taking the time to comment. I just love your stuff!
That's fantastic!
ReplyDeleteI have a suggestion for you. The next time you want a card for your wife, go to Etsy. Put x-rated cards into their search engine. A lot of the shops will custom make what you want. There are shops that sell spanking implements too and other things in which you might be interested. I ordered a morse code necklace from a shop called Morse Code Obscenity which is now closed. It said "I need a spanking." My husband knows morse code and I showed him the necklace and said it was a message. It only took him ten seconds to figure it out and he said, "Over the knee?" Lol
Liza
Thanks so much for the suggestion Liza. I love the idea of a morse-code necklace. I wish they were still open.
DeleteThanks for the suggestions and for stopping by to leave your comments.
I should have mentioned sub hub that Etsy has other shops that make morse code necklaces, bracelets and rings. Just put morse code jewelry in the search engine. They can custom make what you want.
DeleteHope you have a great week!
This sounds so familiar. I, too met a girl at Secrets (East Thomas in Phoenix...see what I mean?!?!) who helped me shop. I am a submissive and was looking to add to our collection of spanking implements. Crystal was so professional and welcoming, I was able to share my kink. She helped me select a rubber paddle which I have come to dread. Crystal coached me to cherish my feelings as I share them with the woman I love (my wife).
ReplyDeleteOn subsequent visits to her store, she remembered me and my tendencies, even helping me select red fishnet stockings I was sent to buy before our last punishment session.
Crystal helped me "come out" and I respect her for being so considerate.
You know, now that you mention it I have seen that store on Thomas, but I've never had a reason in the past to go in there. Perhaps I could also benefit from your expert shopper Crystal if she is still there. Mistress K. and I could use someone like that.
DeleteSHIP..... fun story. As I read it I did so thinking you asked all the right questions in all the right way - and you know what? You did. You were getting a card for your mistress-wife. Doesn't it only seem right to state what is your reality? I know you did so in a relatively safe setting and I can see how good it made you feel. I think I would have felt the same emotions. Well done. Next task - ask the same question at Walgreens :) Good luck with that! LOL
ReplyDeleteThank you my friend. It was exciting to be able to "me" in front of strangers, without guilt or embarrassment. Off to Walgreens!
DeleteI have always been quite embarrassed when out in public, even to those types of stores. I am better now that I am older. What you did sounds great, but I get butterflies just thinking about it.
ReplyDeleteI long for the day when I can be with my Wife in a comfortable setting, and demonstrate my submissiveness to her.
DeleteYes, how wonderful to be true to your most heartfelt inner feelings. How we all long to just let everyone know how happy we are, and can't. Years ago my father was seeing a mistress, as in the dominant type. He would make little comments about how sore his butt was from being spanked and we were like "nope don't want to hear this". He just wanted to tell someone about something that was such a big important part of his life and he couldn't.
ReplyDeleteI understand now.
Hello old friend!! My Man and I had that moment together when we went into a similar store to get me a corset. There was the most amazing acceptance/understanding/respect as I deferred softly to what He wanted or to how the sales girl helped Him tighten the lacing. NOT at all that I was submissive to her but ther was an amount of objectification on their part as they discussed how it should be done. I felt amazingly special- loved- cherished..... it was so refreshing! I hope your Mistress had an amazing birthday!!!! XOXO Pearl
ReplyDeleteIt has taken me a long time to realize that no one cares all that much about my "deep dark secret" that I am married to a DWC wife.
ReplyDeleteIt may be huge to me. But in reality it's a mere blip, practically nothing, to anyone else.
BRAVO !
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