I've told you before that the path Mistress K. and I are on has accelerated nicely, and even to places that neither of us maybe would've even predicted. One such place is (mostly) "permanent denial" along with (kinda mostly) orgasm denial. It really is astonishing how things evolve to a place that would've never logically even thought to be possible. Yet here we are.
I came across a VERY, VERY good blog post from someone I have known and admire in blog-land for years. Mr. Tom Allen.
When being involved in a discussion about permanent chastity, the conversation invariably devolves to a debate as to the meaning of the word permanent. That's why when I refer to myself, I always refer to it (mostly) permanent chastity. I'd just rather avoid the useless debate about what the word "permanent" means.
This post by Tom Allen sums up perfectly the problem with discussions sometimes, and even better, provides a way to accurately portray what one's definition of permanent chastity and orgasm denial is. I've cut and pasted the Matrix chart and definitions of each category for your easy reference. Using this chart and list of variables, I firmly identify as 8 on the "caged" scale, and 7, ok 7.5 on the denial scale. Where do you land?
Defining the Caged (x) axis:
(There’s going to be some subjectivity to this, which is fine.)
0: Obviously, never locked, perhaps not even owning a device.
1: Has a device, worn sometimes for play.
2: Wears the device for extended play (a weekend, or maybe a week once in a while).
3: Wears it for extended play, or fairly frequently
4: Wears it frequently, maybe several days a week, or maybe a week or two at a time.
5: Wears it roughly half the time.
6: Wears it more often than not, with frequent removal.
7: Wears it almost all the time, but unlocked for certain occasions or situations.
8: Always worn, with infrequent removal (medical, travel, etc.)
9: Always worn, including travel, and their doctor has seen it.
10: Essentially permanently installed.
Defining the Denial (y) axis:
(Again, assuming that there will be some subjective evaluations)
0: Always allowed to have an orgasm, perhaps frequently. Denial isn’t even in the vocabulary here.
1: Almost always will get an orgasm.
2: Orgasm rarely denied
3: Usually gets to orgasm, although there might be a surprise ruin in there.
4: Orgasms may not be guaranteed, or possibly used as a reward.
5: Orgasms maybe half the time, perhaps ruined.
6: Orgasms are usually denied.
7: Rarely allowed orgasm, although possible ruins/milkings allowed.
8: Orgasms not allowed, although may have accidental ruins or emissions.
9: Orgasms not allowed, ruins not allowed, may possibly have accidents.
10: Orgasms and emissions never allowed.
I recommend highly that you check out Tom Allen's Tumblr blog and his wonderful wife's Tumblr blogs here and here. Yes, she's that good that she has two different Tumblr blogs. Mistress K. and I have been inspired by the beautiful and wonderful permanently caged and permanent denial relationship that these two marvelous people portray to the world. Although there are differences in our respective lifestyle, the permanence part was something we have begun to do because of that inspiration, and our lives and love have never been better and deeper.
Thanks for stopping by. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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Oh, I almost forgot ... why that particular picture at the top of the page? Because it's hot, that's why. I've always encouraged Mistress K. that she should take on a female "assistant" for companionship and to help out with some of the chores in her life that can't or currently don't assist her with.
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