Words Matter - Some Wisdom

One of my recent posts was a bit of a mini rant about the use of words.  You can find it here. It's a pet-peeve of mine and something I think that contributes to confusion, derision and worse.  

EVOLVING YOUR MAN

Over at one of my favorite sites, Evolving Your Man, hosted by the lovely and talented (really talented) Emma, a conversation title "We Are Not Like The Others" began in the Forum there.  The very first sentence set the tone:

"I know you all like to shit on cuckolds but me and my husband are happily married for going on twelve wonderful years and we are happy as can be." 

It set into motion a conversation about the manner in which some people perceive and interpret a particular phrase.  In this case the phrases/words were "cuckold" and "humiliation".   Each of those has a decidedly "to each their own" meaning, and the back-and-forth comments reflected a reasonable and thoughtful discussion.  

This post here is not about cuckolding but rather about how each of us interprets words/phrases in our own individual context(s).  One of the comments was absolutely excellent in my humble opinion.  It was from a member on the site that goes by the screen name of "nevertoolate".  (btw, if you aren't a member, you should be.  It's free and easy and the content is epic.)  Here was his comment:

From @nevertoolate:

I'd like to think the controversy here comes from not so much the past dictionary use of the term cuckold, but the more recent use of the word to automatically describe a man humiliated and set aside by his partner's "infidelities."

My default is the dictionary, but understand that words evolve (like us men) and can take on multiple meanings over time. Even the Our Hot Wives forums have frequent scuffles and informative discussions over the definition and meaning of "a man who's wife has sex with others."

What I'm finding absolutely fascinating is how these two different worlds have much more in common than they realize. Things sure have evolved. The writings of the 60s and 70s were very much centered on titillating the interests of men, often in a greater position of control. This evolved into husband still initiating the interest and starting "the talk" but no longer dictating the terms. Now, with so much new writing about women's sexuality, we have come to admit they can be greater powerhouses of desire than men, and naturally have a need for variety.  More are also coming forward and admitting her interest was the catalyst to opening the marriage one sided. As was our situation.

So now we come to a fork in the road, only these two groups, the Hotwife, cuckold, stag/vixen group, and the FLR/Male Chastity group, are all merging into one lane.

I think we can respect each other's differences and terminologies as we merge together and find that our interests and goals are more similar than labels describe. Both of our worlds are female centered. Both groups of men evolve into a new men, less burdened by pride and more empowered by compersion.

Welcome!

Wisdom comes from strange places sometimes.  I happen to think these words are spot and valuable because of the wisdom of what is said here.  A valuable lesson in this world of divisive words and interpretations of what words mean.  Thank you for allowing me to reproduce your words @nevertoolate.

Go by and visit Evolving Your Man.  You'll be glad you did.  Tell em subhubphx sent you.