Getting put back in the cage

I've mentioned before that Mistress K. does not require me to wear a cage ... anymore.  Recently though, she has begun to rethink her position on that.  Guh!

Does this count as a reblog?

When we started our loving WLM, we thought that it was required and that if we didn't use one, that the Kinky Police would come and not allow us to play.  *smile  

After a while she decided she would prefer that I be on the honor system because she didn't like the hygiene issues associated with the cage we were using.  The CB6000 pictured above.  It's a nice enough cage.  Comfortable and serves the intended purpose, but ..... the tube has very little room for cleaning and often times the wayward spraying of pee made things unseemly real fast.  Besides, she wanted spontaneous and immediate access whenever she felt urge and didn't want to have to deal with issue around removing it ... namely the need to clean it.

Now, she only uses the cage for punishment purposes.  If she is especially disappointed or upset with me, in the cage I go for several days.  Again, Guh!

We were browsing some naughty and she saw the Mature Metal Jailbird, pictured above.  She decided that the design would be more conducive to offset the hygiene issue and sent off to research it.  This device gets great reviews pretty much universally, but I thought I would ask my reader that are familiar with one what they thought of it.  It's expensive, so before committing to a purchase, please, if you would be so kind as to chine in with your comments, opinions and reviews of the Mature Metal Jail Bird.  

Looks like I'll be moving on up!

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas everyone.  Stay safe and live happy!

-   subhub

Truth in Life

 “Those who have never known the deep intimacy and the intense companionship of happy mutual love have missed the best thing that life has to give.”

-   Bertrand Russell

Things ... They are a changin!

Evolution.  Things are indeed changing and they are changing for the better.  

All the housework?  Yikes.  No, not all of the housework. But more and more of it as time goes on.  We all know that a Dominant Wife in a loving WLM transforms her husband to be what she wants him to be to better serve her and make to her happy.  For some the transition is feminizing him.  For others it may be deliberately leading him to accept that he is no longer man enough to sexually satisfy her and use it as a way to justify having sex with other men (or women).  For still others it is some or everything in between.

I'm not here to debate the ethics of whatever the submissive husband evolves into, intended or otherwise.  Rather I'm talking about changes that can and do occur as a result of a loving, growing and maturing WLM.

Mistress K. and I have been in our WLM officially for about 8 years.  In the past 10 months, our marriage and relationship really blossomed and grew into areas that neither of us really ever dreamed of or thought possible.  The sexy kinky side, (and all that goes with that) of our WLM has progressed and grown nicely on all levels, including but limited to the frequency of sex.  

Mistress K. recently sat me down and informed that was actively, deliberately and methodically going to be training me to enthusiastically accept many more submissive aspects of our marriage.  In particular ..... CHORES!

Because of The Covid, I've been working from home for the better part of 10 months now.  As such, being at home, the list of house chores has grown significantly.  I'm doing things that I was never required to do in the past, even during our WLM.  Things like making the bed every day, laundry - hers, mine and the kids, meals and being ultimately responsible for the overall tidiness of the house.  Simply put, those chores and responsibilities are satisfactorily done, I'm told I'm a good boy and Mistress is happy;  or, they aren't and Mistress is not happy.  

When Mistress is happy, good boys gets treats.  

When Mistress is not happy, bad husbands get something else.

This may all seem like a terrible thing.  Well, I'm here to tell you it is not.  It's a beautiful thing. One of my favorite FLM advocate bloggers, Mz Kaylee, wrote an wonderful blog on the topic called Submissive Men and Chores on her amazing blog Femdom Think Tank.  For those looking for a practicable, real and useful resource for everything Loving WLM/FLR, I suggest you check her out if you haven't already.

Mz Kaylee does a great job in describing how this evolution in her husband is actually a good thing for him.  Not one of those good-for-him that he doesn't see or feel, but one of those good things that he enjoys.  

I've written before about how performing my then chore (loading the dishwasher) actually would frequent give me an erection.  Yes, I said erection.  How could that be? Is loading a dishwasher in and of itself arousing?  Of course not.  Is performing a task that Mistress K. requires of me arousing ... you better fucking believe it is!

Loading the dishwasher has led to many other domestic chores and when performing, I do them with pride and enthusiasm ... because I want to be her "good boy", because good boys gets treats.  It also doesn't hurt that she will often require me to perform these chores while naked, in frilly panties, a butt plug, a ball-stretcher, ball separator or any combination thereof.  

W/we are evolving into our best life.  I can't wait to see what Mistress decides to train me for next.

Have a great day!

Zero Tolerance

 

You have responsibilities.  Things need to be done and done the way they are intended and supposed to be done.

When those things don't get done, there are consequences, whatever the reason.

Our regular Sunday reading and meeting session was disrupted yesterday morning.  Mistress had said that we would conduct it Sunday evening right before going to bed.  It was my job to see that it happened.

I fell asleep on the couch watching the SNF game instead.  Because i fell asleep, I also failed to fill her cup with ice water on her nightstand.  DAMN.

This morning, at the time where I normally kneel before her and put her panties on her for the day, she informed me that putting her panties on would NOT happen for me, and instead I was received 2 fast and hard spanking punishments (simultaneously) and was abruptly sent on my my to get her car warmed and travel coffee ready for her drive to the office.  

The reason for the disruption on Sunday was legit, not my fault nor anything within my control. Life happens. That said, what i should've done was confer with Mistress K. about alternate arrangements, which I did ... but clearly failed to follow through and make certain that our cherished reading time happened as (re)scheduled.  

She was not happy, nor should she have been.  On Sunday mornings, i read Mistress K. blog entries and articles to her that are apropos to our life and lifestyle.  It's also a time that we discuss things about each of us is feeling about our life and our journey. Very cherished time for both of us.

The following is very well something i might expect if this were to ever happen again.

God, i hope not.

Using Pegging as a Tool

Pegging ... it's more than most people think.  Of course for many FLR/WLM's and Femdom relationships, pegging is a staple.  It just makes sense. For many WLM couples, pegging is the even the primary means of penetration ... because there is hardly a better and more intimate way for a Dominant Female to sexually express her leadership, and her love to her husband/boyfriend. 

Other than the way it is depicted in porn and other places, pegging is a beautiful love-making experience between a man and a woman.

My blog friend Emma, author of the Evolving Your Man site has a wonderful take on pegging as evidenced by the several blogs she has published on the subject.  Her most recent blog post is especially good when explaining the benefits to a WLM for the man, and in particular the woman.  

From her post:

"So what about pegging?

Pegging is an eye opening experience and one of the most sexually emotional experiences that a man can try. For a man, the act of pegging is about relaxing his body and accepting penetration." 

With Emma's permission, here is a link to her post - Gender Balance and Understanding: Using Pegging as a tool.  I encourage you go take a look, and while your there, look around at her site and even register.  You'll be glad you did.