This question was asked in the context of several back and forth questions from a young couple just starting out in their very own FLM. It's kind of fun and a bit of an honor to be considered as someone that could offer advice. I replied with words describing the worst kind of spanking. Then I came across pictures that describe it just as well.
First, this is what happens:
All the way to full-on, intense, deep orgasm. Then, this is what happens:
All the way deep, searing pain in my bottom followed by genuine regret and remorse.
Believe me when I tell you ... When Mistress K. feels the needs to punish me this way, I have really fucked up!
OUCH....OUCH...OUCH......
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OUCH indeed abby. Thanks for the hugs! Thanks for stopping by.
Deletehaving the sexual edge rubbed off with ejaculation prior to a spanking or caning leads to an entirely different mind set in the spankee's head. The whole affair becomes a punishment where the spankee resents the imposition of strokes. It is no fun anymore so the spanker gets the benefit this time.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more Michael M. Post orgasm spankings have very little, if any, "sexual enthusiasm" involved. AS such, Mistress K. will reserve such a spanking when she is especially disappointed. The whole event allows for the Mistress to be certain that sub is focused solely on the pain involved with the spanking, and NOT AT ALL on any erotic component that might otherwise be associated with being naked before your Dom/Domme.
Deletethank you taking the time to comment.
Oh oucjh! Definitely hurts more after orgasm.
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Roz
Thanks as always for showing up Roz. You know I appreciate it. May I ask .... is it the same for girls? Have you ever been forced to fully orgasm immediately preceding a substantial punishment spanking?
DeleteI have to agree with the rest OUCH!!! I have also been spanked after orgasm and you feel it much more. R likes the suspended position (or standing) as I dance around more but a few times she has had me straddle the sofa back rest with one foot on the floor the other on the cushion. the bottom crack is a little spread and the cheeks are tight and the spanking is sooooo effective.
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Hi archedone. thanks for saying hello and commenting. At the end of the day, I believe that the standing position is the best (most efficient) was to implement a punishment spanking. Although Mistress K. has only done it once, it is especially efficient when the spankee is standing and is then required to press their body against a wall in order to receive the spanking. Yep .... that works
DeleteYes ... OUCH! I think the best, most efficient way for a Dom?Domme to implement a punishment spanking is the sub/slave standing. Although it's only happened once, standing and being required to press and keep your entire body against the wall in order to received your spanking is intense, especially if it is post orgasm. Mistress will mostly implement a post orgasm spanking if she is really, really not happy with me.
DeleteI may regret this, but I'll have to let Mistress K. know about the one foot elevated idea. She enjoys having the edge of the paddle land on the fleshy, soft area in and around my anus. that too is OUCHY
A spanking only really begins when the boy heartily wishes it were already over.
ReplyDeleteTruer words were never spoken Anonymous! Thank you.
DeleteYou're welcome, My dear. Perhaps one day your Mistress will discover a particular favorite of mine: anal caning. It's like a big spanking for a tiny little spot. Making you hold your cheeks open and taut further augments the powerful impression.
DeleteLady Bella
Oh my goodness. That sounds terrifying. When then is my cock hard ?
DeleteHi Subhub,
ReplyDeleteThis is probably a topic that needs more discussion. Opinions on line about it seem to range widely from women who use it for every spanking to those who think it should never be used because it takes away the erotic energy from discipline.I have experienced a few of these and they are pure punishment. If a woman decides to punish that severely it is her right to do so, but I think they are rarely really necessary. To me spanking after orgasm is the 'nucleur option" to be used when every thing else has failed
Alan
Hi Alan and thanks for stopping by to comment. It's good to "see" you again. Yes, I agree, this topic does deserve more discussion because everyone has an opinion of course. Personally, I am thankful that my Mistress is NOT one of those women that believes that every punishment spanking should be administered post-orgasm. Indeed it does take the erotic energy away from a punishment, which is precisely why Mistress K. will pick and choose when she will implement it.
DeleteLike everything else that happens in a FLM/FLR, it IS the prerogative (right) of the Woman to use it as pure punishment as she sees fit. Like you, I believe it is rarely necessary. A good hard, memorable punishment can easily be achieved without having the male orgasm first, thus retaining the "nuclear option" to be used for maximum effect.
At the end of the day, it is the rare occasion when I am being punished post-orgasm that I truly do test my resolve for my the commitment I have made to my Mistress in our life and marriage. Without fail, each time, after it is over, my resolve deepens.
Thank you so much for the thought provoking comment Alan.
Worst spanking ever was the result of my wife catching me masturbating. Immediately following my ejaculation ... she had me over her knee and I got the worst paddling ever!
ReplyDeleteI understand completely Anonymous. If that were to happen in my marriage, I am certain that my punishment would be world-class awful. Masturbating without permission in my marriage is akin to infidelity and stealing. The orgasms, the penis the right to touch myself sexually ... all belong to her!
DeleteHi sub hub, oh yes, I can only agree with you, a spanking does hurt more after an orgasm. We are talking about punishment, so this is meant to hurt and it absolutely does. Hubby did that several years ago when I orgasmed without permission, and it is among the worst punishments ever for me. Big Ouch!
ReplyDeleteAs a result, I'd rather go without orgasm than repeating that sort of spanking. And this sort of spanking does create a lot of the 'I have really fucked up' feeling, which is disastrous for me, too, so I think I get you on that. The somehow strange thing is that a severe punishment helps me to get out of this feeling again, and I imagine that it is the same for you. I hope you do not have many of those punishments, because they are really yucky.
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Nina
Hi Ni Na,
DeleteAlways great to see you my dear. Yes, an orgasm immediately preceding a punishment spanking is especially more hurty. As yes, you are correct, we are talking about punishment spankings here, not the erotic kind that makes us all tingly and excited because we get to be naked and present ourselves to our Dominants. Without question, this kind of punishment really does drive the point home to the submissive/slave.
Thankfully I haven't been subject to many of these kinds of punishment (3 total). years from now, I hope that number remains at 3.
Thank you as always for saying hi!
XOXO
I saw this lovely couple once before and would love to see more of them. Can you tell us the source?
ReplyDeleteSorry, can't help you there.
DeleteSHIP, thought you'd be interested in this post: http://slaveofmistress-s.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteStay well!
Thanks pal. He and I have communicated via email. Nice to know that I am not the only sub husband in Phoenix and also in the blog world. Thanks for thinking of me.
DeleteMy wife strongly believes spankings are not sexual, they are punishment, I wanted a woman who I married. It is to the bathroom and I stand naked as she strokes my erection, takes her times sometimes, other times very hard. The spankings are done in the bedroom, otk always and it is hand than hairbrush. I've been spanked prior to and after and after is the worse. Corner time, and the worse part is as my wife states "Jammie Time", I wear my pajamas for the rest of the day and sometime longer, I get sent to bed early, and in get a bath in the morning. So my wife states she knows how to deal with a naughty little boy.
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