Settling Back into our normal ...

Hi everyone.  It's been a minute since we talked last.  I hope you summer is going well and that everyone you love is happy, safe and comfortable.

I've mentioned before that we were already quite a bit down the road to (mostly) permanent chastity.  For nearly a year, I was mostly caged 24/7.  Wearing the cage was a default expectation by Mistress K., and something that I had come embrace as a normal, everyday experience.  I love it.  We both love.

Summer came a long and with it came some international travel on two different trips to two different destinations, some Covid for Mistress K., some health scares because of elderly parents ... stuff like that.  As a result, Mistress K. had me uncaged for the last half of June and the first half of July.  She didn't say why (she is required to) she preferred me uncaged, she just looked at me and said, "Because ... it's what I want."

Truth be told, I didn't hate being uncaged.  I enjoyed getting erections when nature decided.  I enjoyed standing and peeing.  I was even allowed (actually required) to enjoy 2 different full penetration fucking sessions with Mistress K.  You know, the kind where I would get her all revved up, watch her have an orgasm or two, penetrate her with my very own cock, and not her new rubber boyfriend (which has been slowly put surely becoming Mistress' preferred cock for penetration), without stopping, all the way to the biggest orgasm I could muster.  That (put it in and go to the finish line) happened twice in 4 weeks.  I felt like a drunk sailor slut on shore-leave.  Prior to that, it had been twice in 5 years. 

As fun as it was, being allowed to orgasm twice in a month, our WLM dynamic was just all messed up.  As things began to settle back to normal for us, that all changed.  In fact, it all changed this Monday morning when Mistress K. was pulling out of the garage on her way to work.  After exchanging our "I love you's" and her giving me my instructions for the day, she said "Oh, and get your cage back on right away."

2 minutes later, my cage was back on, and it was as comfortable and comforting as I had remembered.  The mindset difference between caged and uncaged is an amazing phenomenon. It has been ever since and will for the foreseeable future, and everything is falling right back into line for our "yes Mistress" normal.

Last night, after returning home from a beautiful Italian dinner, I took the dog out to pee and Mistress K. disappeared into the bedroom.  I assumed she would be changing in her jammies for the night.  She didn't.  After helping Fido do his business outside, I heard "Babe, I need you."  I walk into the bedroom and she is peeling off her clothes.  "Lock the door."  She was horny!  "Take off your clothes."  Now I was horny.  "I'm going to have our orgasms tonight.  You won't be."  "Yes Mistress, of course."  "Would you like me to get your boyfriend Mistress?"  "No, not tonight."  Tonight, you will watch me masturbate to orgasm."

She did ... and holy fuck was it glorious! I so much love watching her writhe in sexual pleasure and have orgasms.  Love it!  I was positioned on the bed, kneeling between her spread legs, with caged cock less than an inch from her glorious pussy.  After her orgasm she put the vibrator on my caged cock and said "take this from me and leave it running on your cage.  I want to see you fuck my vibrator.  You have permission to cum in your cage if you can get there."  I couldn't get there.

She took the vibrator back and said, "maybe this will inspire you.", and immediately resumed her masturbation to another, fucking amazing orgasm.  I already know that she loves the idea of me cum in my cage.  It's the ultimate ruined orgasm.  I just couldn't get there.

Still, it was an amazing way to welcome each other back to our normal WLM lifestyle, and we couldn't be happier.

Post Orgasm Spankings (The worst)

I was browsing my favorite blogs this morning and came across this great topic from a site that I really enjoy.  The Disciplinary Couples Club.  I recommend it highly.  Thanks for the image below.

Post orgasm spankings are the very worst.  In my house they are rare.  Thankfully!  Why?  Because they suck.  The reason for a post-orgasm spanking is it takes every last ounce of eroticism out of the act of receiving a punishment spanking.  And believe me, it works!

There were 3 occasions in which Mistress K. administered a post orgasm spanking.  For each of them, she felt that my behavior was so egregious that such a drastic measure was required.  In each of them, we were in a rare argument.  We do disagree from time to time, and sometimes those disagreements result in spankings.  But when we disagree, and I forget my place in our relationship, I sometimes revert to using language and tone that is clearly disrespectful.  Disrespect and intolerance is something that Mistress K. DOES NOT tolerate.  Ever!  She is keenly aware of the effect of post orgasm spankings and always keeps them in her back pocket for such occasions.  Thankfully it has been a few years since I "forgot my role", so it's been quite a while since I've endured such an awful punishment.

The first time, we had been arguing and she left the room angry and in tears.  30 minutes later, she re-emerged, walked right up to me, pointed to the bedroom and said "move".  Once in the bedroom she made me strip while standing on the tile portion, and told me to masturbate to full orgasm and cum on the floor.  I mistakenly thought she was giving me a treat.  After coming she said lay over the bed and left the room and came back with her paddle.  She proceeded to give me the hardest, most painful spanking she had ever given me up to that point.  I was pleading and begging her to stop, but that only made the blows come harder and faster.  I soon realized that I had better apologize (and mean it) and make her understand that I knew what I had done wrong.  When she was done, she just dropped the paddle at my feet and left room, telling me to "clean up this mess".  She got in her car and went shopping.

Fellas, can you imagine having to endure this right after having an orgasm?  It's not fun.  Not even a little.  My friend Dan at Disciplinary Couples Club made this comment, which i agree with wholeheartedly; 

"But I look at post orgasm spankings as the “nuclear option” to be used when all else fails, but not every time. 

The "nuclear option" in my mind is something falls just short of total relationship dissolution.

He also mentioned this, which I also understand and agree;  

" ... my wife can make a punishment spanking very real without making me cum before while holding the post orgasm out as an implicit threat if she feels it is needed."

All of this of course leads to the most important aspect of all of this ... the means with which Mistress can and will correct unsatisfactory behavior, which after all is what punishment is for.  Being able to unilaterally correct undesirable behavior is absolutely essential in a WLM.  Duh, right?

The other two times were both pretty much the same.  

More disrespectful demeanor and language, only this time she abruptly ended the discussion with "That's it!", followed by instructions for immediate orgasm and assuming the position.

Like I said, it's been a few years since Mistress K. has had to resort to such drastic corrective measures, which we are both grateful for.  

Thank you again Dan from Disciplinary Couples Club for the inspiration.