Yesterday, I blew up at Mistress. Not because of anything she had done, or done wrong even. It's just that I was at a peak of frustrations that had nothing to do with Mistress or our lifestyle. Shit from work (people are sometimes just weasel-ass fuckers, aren't they?) and I was frustrated at a stupid faucet on a bathroom vanity that Mistress wanted me to install.
In the several wonderful years that we lived in our FLR, I have so very rarely allowed my frustrations in things that don't include mistress, to come out in frustration for Mistress. yesterday was one of those days. I am so very proud of my Mistress Wife. She knew the benefit of letting me blow off steam before she approached me to calmly ask me to settle down. When I didn't settle down ... she had very little interest in accepting my behavior and very sternly let me know! It took me a total of five minutes for me to come to senses and realize that not only did I blow up about essentially nothing, and certainly nothing to do with Mistress, but that my being pissy like I was is not something that should affect Mistress .... in any way .... ever.
We are all good. In fact, we are even better than we were because each of us continues to grow in our respective roles. There was nothing sexual at all about my outburst, nor in her commanding that it end. Nothing at all. Recalling this non-sexual event however has me hard as a rock because the only thing I can focus on was how Mistress did not waiver, did not back down, did not engage in an argument with her lunatic submissive husband. Instead ... she ended it! I love you Mistress.
Have a great weekend everyone. Mistress and I are planning to head back to the mountains this week for an 3 day weekend.
SHIP
P.S. Mistress did mention after the episode was over that the punishment I am still waiting to receive from a previous infraction (because she said it requires enough space and time to be able to execute in the manner she had in mind), will now be "significantly more escalated as a result of our little episode". After saying that to me, she kissed me on the head, patted me on the ass and left the room.
Thanks for this post. MrsL and I have implemented disciplinary spankings for infractions of the few rules she has established...and she continues to add rules. The most recent one was the most firm/stern she has given me...and well deserved. She made a comment about the way I had hung a shirt up after I took it out of the laundry and I played it off as a joke. I thoroughly enjoy your blog. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteThanks CC. Not knowing much about your situation I'll assume that like me you are living in a loving FLM. If so, congratulations. I really appreciate the kind words. I'll bet you'll be better at hanging up your shirts. 😉
DeleteThanks SHIP. We have "played" with chastity and FLM for years. We are taking this new phase one step at a time as the other attempts ended with both of us feeling disconnected. This time around we are much more connected because I have truly submitted to her at home. Daily life, I have to be the dominant person as I am a fraud investigator for a major global company...at home...I need to unplug. Your blog is great and I enjoy reading it. Thanks.
DeleteThanks so much CC. I know the feeling of needing to "unplug". Thankfully and like you, I have a Mistress Wife that will unplug me, sometimes by plugging me. ;-)
DeleteIt sounds like your relationship is working just fine. We all loose our minds every now and then in one way or another and let down or take for granted our partner. That's just being human.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like she exercised her dominance very wisely, and you got in line! You both should be proud of how this situation ended up.
Can't wait to hear what she has in store for you as far as punishment goes - hehehehe!
Hi Jen and thank you for commenting. Yes, we are doing just fine and yes, Mistress expertly exert her dominance. More swiftly and efficiently than ever before. I told her much I appreciated her understanding the importance of that in our lives.
DeleteI'm going to occasionally do stupid-human things and I am so grateful that she will be there to corral me.
The best of luck with your impending punishment, my friend. Amazing how it doesn't take much for us to realize the error of our ways!
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Thanks my dear friend. I am probably due for a good, hard, well-planned punishment. I'm certain it will be exactly what we both need to get centered again.
DeleteThank you so much for your "always there" support and kind words. I appreciate you more than probably know.
I'm sorry this happened sub hub, life's frustrations do boil over occasionally. Work colleagues are frustrating the hell out of me too. I love how your Mistress handled this and calmed you and the situation. Wishing you the best with your impending punishment.
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Roz
Thanks Roz. I always appreciate your support. I'm sorry it happened too but I do know that every time something like this happens, it only makes us stronger together. I love her guiding our journey!
DeleteWe all have moments of insanity =]. All jokes aside, your Mistress K is rock solid. Handling this as she did speaks to that. Very awesome for you both my friend!!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your few days away! And, good luck with the impending punishment. I'm sure your love will decide on just what is needed!
Thank as always my friend. Even though I know there is something for me to endure, I know it is necessary and more than just a little helpful.
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ReplyDeleteI feel your frustration friend. I really do. Sometimes people can be such idiots and then there are projects that are simply not easy to do. When the top blows, aren't you glad that you can vent to your best friend? I mean it didn't seem as if you were blaming her but rather airing your frustrations to someone who you could vent in confidence.
Too bad your punishment is getting ramped up. I guess she didn't appreciate all of what you had to say. Hang in there!
Thanks for your wisdom my friend. No, I wasn't blaming her at all, but in retrospect my anger was wrongly pointed in her direction. Hence the need for correction. Ironically, it was the fact that the comfort I felt in her being my best friend was what allowed me to direct it at her, which she didn't at all appreciate. Like all other imperfections in our relationship, this flawed event was a catalyst for better understanding and a deeper appreciation for each other, in our respective roles. The project only became difficult because of my state of mind. Once the unnecessary pressure in my mind was released, the project was easy. It's all on me. I was/am so appreciative that she did not flinch in her dominance and was able to restore order immediately!! How awesome is she?
DeleteIt does not happen too often but I have earned two punishments before the first is given. In our home what happens is I receive the first punishment, then am told to assume the display position. As my bottom does not stay red for long (unless there are lines from the whip) once my color begins to fade she tells me it's time for the second punishment and once again I'm in position for her to spank me. Good luck on what she will do with you. I know you will be sore after. But it will be because she loves you and is in control.
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Arched one, I believe you may be on to something with simply waiting for the visual effects of the first spanking to subside before implementing the second punishment. For a husband to have earned a second punishment before the first can be given, it seems like a very and just way to get back to even. Nicely done. Thank you.
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DeleteI am Jay, Marisa's husband and I have permission to post this. I do sometimes get in trouble a second time before I have been punished ( not very often). What happens to me is similar to archedone's experience. I am spanked and scolded for the first offense and then given extended corner time as much as an hour. The second spanking is always done in a different room and she always uses a heavy strap or large paddle. The second spanking is always harder and longer than the first because I got in trouble so soon again. It is impressed on me that each spanking is a separate punishment and I usually have to write a long letter to her afterward explaining why I was punished and what I plan to do to avoid another in the future..
Just a post script: Jay has had this experience much more often than he implies but the rest of his report is accurate. This is a test post for him as is reading this blog without supervision. So far other than his little white lie he is doing very well and I am proud of him. I will however be addressing the lie later today.
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Jay/Marisa, thank you so much for your comments. I love hearing our story. That description of multiple punishments for additional infractions is wonderful. Thank you for sharing. Marisa, thank you for occasionally allowing jay to read my blog.
DeleteHi sub hub, sorry that you had such a frustrating moment and that your Mistress got involved. However, it is great that she calmed you down and that you saw your mistake too. That's awesome. Uh oh, the spanking will be one to remember, won't it? Enjoy your trip!
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Nina
HI Ni Na. Thank you for stopping by. The trip was great and as of this writing, I am still waiting for Mistress to implement her punishment. Can't wait for the kids to go back to school. *smile
DeleteHi Everything comes to he who waits, so I am sure the additional strokes will be an acceptable resolution of matter.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree Michael M. Although I hate to admit it, I need this punishment. It's been too long since I was able to feel the correction from Mistress. I am dreading and looking forward to it, all at the same time.
DeleteThank you as always for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate it.
Sounds like this was not pleasant for your Mistress when you vented and blew up. It is a very fine line between venting to someone and actually directing some of that anger to that person. David has had issue with this lots and lots of times in the past, which I am now trying to quickly correct. In his case he had such anger (rightfully so) towards a few people, his ex being one of them, and the only person he could vent to was me, but sometimes he took his anger out on me and that was not fun. There was only so much I could do to control that from a distance with only weekends together, but now that we are living together I am getting right on that so he learns new ways to cope. I know that this kind of behavior does not happen with you often, but I am sure the coming punishment will help you remember your place when you are frustrated and approach it a little better when you need to vent.
ReplyDeleteYes Mistress Marie, my pending punishment is likely to have the exact corrective effect that is necessary right now.
DeleteI have noticed that you have really ramped up your punishments of david. I think it is a good thing and I think you believe so as well. Implementing punishment is indeed so much easier when your slave lives in your house I'm sure.