This whole "March is ask questions month" thing is awesome. It is so wonderful to get to know everyone so much better on all aspects of their lives, and not just the D/s, FLM, TTWD, etc., aspect of our lives. Thank you so much to everyone for asking and answering all those questions. I believe and hope that I am caught up on answering and asking all the questions from and to each one of the wonderful friends I have made here. In case I haven't please forgive and please let me know. I'm loving doing all of this.
Also, Mistress K., a couple of you have asked questions of Mistress K. both here and in direct emails to her email account. Mistress K. doesn't participate in blog viewing and connecting as much as I do obviously. Not because she doesn't want to. She absolutely does. She is both "blog challenged" (self-described) and without the ability time wise to access the "internet related" aspects of connecting with all of you as much as she would like. She has asked me to extend her sincere apologies for the delay in replying to both emails that have been sent to her and to questions or comments directed to her here. We both agree that we need to dedicate some time for her and I to identify and respond appropriately to those that have taken the time to reach out to her.
Thank you again everyone. We both love you all!
Does anyone outside of your blogosphere know about your dynamic? Why or why not?
ReplyDeleteThanks for following my blog.
It certainly my pleasure to follow your blog CollaredMom. It is wonderful. Likewise, thank you for following mine and for taking the time to ask your questions.
DeleteThere are two people outside of the blogosphere that know about our lifestyle. One of them is Mistress K.'s best friend and the other is an old friend (woman) that I used to work with a long, long time ago.
Mistress told her best friend because she felt that revealing our lifestyle to her was something that her friend might be able to use in her own marriage to relieve some of the problems she was having in her marriage.
The other person was told by me, without the knowledge or permission of Mistress K. She was NOT HAPPY about it when she found out and believe me when I tell you, I paid dearly for it then, and very much learned my lesson. There was no spanking involved or anything like that. Let's just it was something that was a hard time for both of us, and it was quite se time ago. We are past it now and even stronger for it. This other person was never someone I was intimate with, and the reason it came up in our conversation was because she was complaining about things with her boyfriend, and I stupidly thought it would be a good idea for me to unilaterally decide to explain the benefits of a Female Led Relationship.
Does Mistress K take the lead in things outside of the home. Obviously not when family is around. Such as if you went to a restaurant together would she Oder for you without asking what you would like. Things like that
ReplyDeleteHi anna louise. Thank you for stopping by and for your question. The answer is yes, sometimes, but not often. There are moments when she has a very definite, dominant opinion in a social setting and will exercise her authority accordingly. She never does it though, in a way that publicly or openly would humiliate me. Thankfully, all she needs to do is give me a look to let me know that she has already decided what will happen in such a situation.
ReplyDeleteIt is most certainly hectic in blogland at the moment, trying to keep up with peoples posts, writing my own to answer questions, and asking lol
ReplyDeleteBut its great fun to learn more about each other that perhaps hasnt been mentioned in ones blog.
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I obviously agree tori. thanks
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ReplyDeleteQuestion time if I may? As you know I have only recently started this journey and have been doing a lot of reflecting on my life. I have a theory developing around why I'm submissive. My proposition is that because I am socially awkward and had great difficulty in meeting women I tried too hard which turned women off. I subsequently learned that when someone took an interest in me I changed to suit there desires so as to be acceptable to them. A bit of a chameleon if you will. I've only had four such relationships, including my first. My question. I was wondering if you have thought about the origins of your submissive nature at all, what shaped it, how did it develop? DtBHC.
Great question DtBHC and thank you for asking it. For me it was different. In my relationship with my wife, it started as me being the dominant one. Not dominant in a kink way or D/s way, but in all other aspects of our life together. I made all of the decisions, not because I insisted on it or anything like that, but rather because it was our natural way. When i fell in love with her, I fell in love hard. By hard, I mean in the most wonderful way you could imagine. She was sweet to everyone and everything. She was the kind of girl that would have blue birds land on her shoulder and sing songs. Bunnies would walk up to her and rub themselves on her as an expression of love. OK, maybe not really, but you get the idea.
DeleteAs time went on, my love for only deepened and one day, when she casually asked if we would love each other same way when our children were grown and gone, it got me to thinking. I knew i would love this woman forever, but I also knew that like most couples, we were headed in the direction of a rut. Not in a rut, mind you, but headed in that direction. I happened to come across some information about female Led relationships/Marriages and the very first thing I read on the topic emphasized the most important aspect of it in my mind. That being that it was a perfect way to be able to live in an almost constant state of desire if the participants where inclined to live the lifestyle.
I thought about it for a long time and weighed all of the options, concerns and benefits and finally decided that i was going to approach her with the idea. I mustered up the courage and did just that. She liked it even though at first she hadn't had the benefit of marinating in the idea like I had. She agreed to give it a try and asked for my patience as she got herself up to speed. The rest, as they is history. A wonderful history. I was willing and eager to offer her my submission as a gesture to my desire to want to love her hard for the rest of our lives together. I think presenting it in that fashion, and her understanding it from that perspective has been the key to our "success" thus far.
I realize there are many men that aren't as lucky as I but I am certain that if there is enough honest communication about what the benefits of a FLM actually, and the focus is not on keeping score in the kink activity department, this is a lifestyle that could and would save many marriages, and allow many more to blossom into something that is truly beautiful .... like it was intended to be.
Good luck with yours my friend. I am eager to continue to follow your journey. Thank you for the question.
sub hub another question if I may. I know you wear panties from time to time do you have spanking days where you can only wear panties all day and thru out the day she spanks you in different positions. Not hard spanking just nice stinging ones. We do that at least once a month and believe me she gets lots of oral attention on those days. Seems spanking me turns her on.
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P.S. Love this question and answer month
His archedone, good to see you! Thanks for the additional question. The answer is no. We don't have a spanking "ritual" or spanking days. I get spanked only when Mistress decides it is necessary. When I wear panties, it is because on that particular day, it is something that Mistress wants.
DeleteCoincidently, I have thinking about asking Mistress for scheduled maintenance spanking sessions. For over 2 week now, I have been due for a punishment spanking, but our busy real lives have made that not happen as of yet. It's still on the docket, and it will happen, but I think we can all agree that meting out the earned punishment sooner rather than later is preferred by all parties, on all accounts for all the obvious reasons.
Thanks again for the additional question archedone.
I also get maintenance and I love it for many reasons. 1st I love presenting my bare bottom to her. 2nd I love being spanked. 3rd maintenance reminds me she is in charge and I'm submissive. 4th it's not as hard as punishment but gives me a nice sting and still sore bottom. 5th I love displaying my freshly spanked bottom to her and after every one I get into my display position. 6th after display the sex is fantastic.
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I love all of those too my friend. Mostly though, I love to present myself to my Mistress for purposes of worship, punishment and sexual servitude.
DeleteHi sub hub, I'm really enjoying Q&A month and learning more about blog friends, Really enjoyed reading all the questions here and your wonderful answers. Love your answers to my questions. Thank you for answering :)
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Roz
Roz, I totally agree and feel the same way about you. You're welcome!
DeleteHave a great weekend!
Hi sub hub, getting caught up on posts and have enjoyed all your questions and answers. I've got one for your, can't recall if it's come up in a prior post, but have you and Mistress talked about sharing/cuckhold and is that something either of you are interested in? Her bringing in another woman to partake in play/punishment or her becoming involved with another man and creating a cuckhold arrangement? Thanks. K
ReplyDeleteThank you K. I answered your question in a post just now!
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