Yesterday morning, I was naked, and ready to get dressed. Mistress had not returned from taking the little ones to school and it was getting late. I had to go to a meeting. I called Mistress and she said to wait for her, she would only be a minute or two. I waited patiently in the closet for her to arrive and instruct me on what to wear. Instead, she bent me over the island in the closet and proceeded to spank me for not having completed some paperwork she had told me to do 2 days earlier.
From the very first swat of her leather paddle, I knew it was going to be one of those times when it hurt waaaaaay more than other times. I was begging her to stop in no time. She went very light on me because she knew I was in a hurry to make my meeting, but holy shit, every time that leather met my ass I was squealing like a pussy.
I think it may have been for 2 reasons, One, I had just emerged from the shower and had given myself a touch-up shaving on my ass, so my ass was as bare as possible, but was also wet and warm. The other reason I think is because I was totally not expecting to be spanked. I don't, is that thing?
In any event, it was 2 hours later and I had to text Mistress to tell that I could still feel the sting on my ass. Oh, that reminds me, I forgot to thank her for my spanking yesterday morning. She'll be waking up in a few minutes .......... I'll get right on that.
I would think the extra sting was due to the wet and warm, mainly the warm with lots of blood flow close to the surface. The worst bruising I ever got on my ass was after spanking in front of the heat from the wood stove.
ReplyDeleteFor you southlanders from Phoenix, a wood stove burns wood to create heat in our frigid northern homes. The heat on my ass from the stove accentuated that from the belt whipping.
Good on you to thank her for your spankings.
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I've heard of those wood stove things. Lol. I agree…the shower contributed to the extra sting, especially on a freshly shaved bottom.
DeleteThanks for the support brother.
I got spanked IN the shower once. Holy Shreking ouch! x_x
ReplyDeleteI chuckled at your above comment on the wood stoves - lol. Have you always live in Az? :) We considered AZ for our upcoming relocation this Summer, but WA won out in the end. xx
Almost always. 48 years so I'm basically a native.
DeleteOMG, I can only imagine being punished the shower with a paddle. Ouch!
Ouch indeed! lol. x_x I don't misbehave in the shower much anymore, I now keep in mind that He always seems to have nearby tools!
DeleteWow, awesome! My Father lives there, and I have a lot of friends I grew up with here in CO. that migrated that way, imagine that. Guess they got tired of the snow. lol.
Good to hear she gave you a good spanking. Sometimes I don't think she is dominant enough in controlling you. I saw you say in a post you haven't been locked for three months. I know you don't like it long term but she should lock you 3-4 days every week or two make you feel more submsissive. And are you feeling less restless after the spanking? I need you need more control. My opinion anyway.
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I hope, FD, that you do not mind if I comment on this? I just wanted to say, that I think this is very wise.. at least, I know this is something I've really been going through, and wondered the same in my brother subs recent writings,maybe.
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No problem with commenting Amber. I think the more comments the better.Good for Doms and subs to have dialogue. I also think the more control the better for subs to make them feel submissive. From the Dom perspective, I think control is very important in a Dom-sub relationship.
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Thank you, FD. :) I know I do better with complete control being taken, even down to micro management. How would you, as a Dom suggest a sub trying to ask for more to be taken control wise? Some times mentioned it, no matter how respectively doesn't always stick.
DeleteI really enjoy your blog, and the comments I see you leave. :)
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Amber: I answered you question on your blog. And thanks for the kind comments.
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FD, I saw.. thank you so much. I am working on a response here as we speak. *smile*
DeleteI have to agree with the others sub hub. Control seems to be getting lost. you forget to do things she asked, you forget to thank her. Maybe you should be locked and maybe even plugged for a few days each week along with reminder spanking.
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Hi everyone,
ReplyDeleteLast night I told Mistress K. that it seems unanimous that all my friends agree that the control/obedience that one would expect in a true FLM, is slipping. She stopped was she was doing, looked up for a second, looked and me, smiled and said .... "I believe they are correct". However more control or domination manifests itself in our daily lives remains to be seen. Harder, longer spankings? Use of the cock cage more? Corner time? other, limit testing things perhaps? I don't know exactly because that will be up to Mistress K. of course, but now that the cat is out of the bag, I know each of us has better focus.
I love her so much and cherish the fact that we have the ability to love this deeply and to be able to communicate on this level.
Thank you everyone.
Great to hear that you have such good communication and that she agrees she needs to be more in control. Communication is so important in a FLR. Subs need to feel they are being controlled 24/7 to remain in a submissive state. Will be interesting in hearing what she does next. Harder, longer spankings, more cock cage and corner time all sounds like good ideas. Does she have any interest in using a strapon on you or having you wear a collar and/or be naked when you are home alone?. Shave your body hair? Do you clean the house? But the bottom line is she knows she needs to be more dominant and she will decide what she thinks is best.
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FD, first let me tell you that I really do appreciate your interest in my little world, and your willingness to provide your counsel. I means a lot. It really does!
DeleteYes, Mistress does use a strap-on on me, but has only used it so far as a reward. She knows that I enjoyed being taken by her with her strap-on. For me it is such a deeply intimate moment to be penetrated by the woman that I live to serve and worship. I don't mind admitting that I was super disappointed that when we renew our wedding vows, and Mistress collared me, that we did not consummate it with her strap-on. That thought was in mind, not hers obviously and as such, I totally understand and accept her decision. Bottom line, her strap-on is something that I always hope for so I don't think it could really be used for punishments.
I wore her collar on our wedding vow renewal night, but not since. When we are alone, I am required to be naked in her presence, without being asked/told to. Our only issue there is that those times are rare because of kids.
I am required to keep my cock, balls and ass shaved at all times. Recently (on the night of our vows) Mistress used the electric clippers to bring all of my body hair above my waist down as far as it would go without using shave cream and a razor. When she was done, she stood back and giggled with delight and how I looked. I do admit that I felt sexier and more submissive while being essentially hairless above the waist.
I don't clean the house perse, although I do help out at the discretion of Mistress K. whenever she requires it. I am, however, solely responsibility for keeping every dish in the house clean and in it's proper place. I have received plenty of spankings in the past for leaving dirty dishes in the sink. She whipped my ass GOOD AND HARD when her frustration for that reached it end. It has not happened since.
Thanks again so much for your interest, support and guidance. I/We are moving into a more dominant phase of our beloved FLM as you first suggested.
Thanks for your kind words. Good to hear you like my feedback. I understand now that a strapon isn't a punishment for you. Good to hear you are naked in his presence when you are alone. Maybe she can add the collar and the cage when you are alone and then remove the cage when she wants to use your cock. And keeping the dishes in their proper place is a good way to focus you. And I like your previous post that you got another spanking and need to get your shit together. I understand that raising kids keeps you both very busy. That's a full time job on top of your regular jobs and it's easy to slip back into vanilla roles. But good to hear she is making time to enter a more dominant phase of your beloved FLM lifestyle. I know it is easy for a Dom to let things slide.and then the sub starts to feel restless. It is a good sign that she seems ready to tighten her control and keep you in a sub mood as often as possible. Good luck as you enter a new phase in your FLM. You are so fortunate that you have a wife who realizes she needs to keep that control and that this is the lifestyle you both need.
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I appreciate your thoughts and comments FD. I am so absolutely grateful for being in this relationship with the person i love the most in this world (outside of my children). One of the main reasons why I have always fantasized about being revealed as a submissive husband is to be able to have open and frank conversation about the unmitigated joy that comes from the REALITY of what Mistress K. and I have. Most unaware people believe it is a life of unwanted servitude, unwanted pain and unwanted humiliation. In reality, as we submissives who are in a truly loving D/s relationship already know, our existing is always marinating in unquestioned love, support, devotion and desire. All of which comes naturally. and is not only welcomed, it is a source of bliss. The intimate circumstances in which D/s couples express their love is different with each couple. Mistress K. and i are like anyone else and are subject to all of the distractions that come from real life. I am so grateful that each of us has an understanding of the importance of communication with each other, and mutual understand of our respective roles in our loving union. I couldn't be prouder to wear her collar AND be her husband.
DeleteThe extent to which she intends on exerting more control over our daily circumstances will remain to be seen and as I have told her, I will accept everything and anything she decides will be done today and for all of the tomorrows going forward.
Thanks again Florida Dom!
I am a Mistress Wife with a devoted submissive husband that I love very much. Of course he loves me very much too. We have been married for 21 years, the first 15 of which were very much vanilla even though we were sometimes kinky in our sex life. Unlike most wife led marriages, ours began after a suggestion by me. I realize that the suggestion for most wife led marriages comes from the husband. I already knew that he enjoyed being submissive, at least occasionally
ReplyDeleteWe came across periods of time that are similar to what is being talked about in this string of comments. There was never any real strain on our relationship but rather a different kind of rut in the lifestyle we were living now. I woke up one day and realized that we were back on the a similar path again and I was determined to not allow that to happen. So I made a decision, and that decision was that I needed to lead the way toward where I (we) needed to be in our chosen lifestyle. I realized that I had let things slip. Even though his behavior had become unacceptable, I realized I had allowed it get that way. If this was going to be permanently fixed, it was going to have to me that saw to it.
Here’s what I did. I sat him down and revealed to him all of the concerns I had about the direction our marriage was going. Nothing serious like divorce or anything like that. I told him as the leader of the marriage that beginning at that moment that was all going to change. I told him that on that coming weekend the kids would be with Grandma and that we would be alone in the house. I told him that we were going to use the 2 days to have a bit of a boot camp.
When he came home from work on Friday night, naked and kneeling while I sat, I asked him very sincerely and as his loving wife if he truly wanted to continue with our lifestyle. He did. I then told him that over the weekend we were going to reconnect. That he was going to experience things that he hadn’t before. I felt that I needed to be able to test his resolve to remain my loving, submissive husband. He would be spanked harder and longer than he ever was before for anything that was not perfect. There were probably 10 different ritualistic punishment spanking sessions during that weekend. By the following Monday, there was no doubt what he had been through during the weekend by just looking at the bruises on his ass. He learned then that going forward he would be expected to eat his cum any time he ejaculated unless I said differently. Something I knew he would not like. That weekend was hard on him physically but I could tell emotionally it was exactly what he wanted and needed. We connected on such a deep, emotional level during those two days.
My beloved sub husband has been happier and a new man ever since, which has something also to do with my happiness as well. He is the model sub and our love for each other has never been deeper. He is dominant is every other aspect of his life other than our marriage. As a father, businessman, upstanding member of the community, he is viewed as a leader of people. He is more confident and strong in all aspects of his life outside of our marriage and I honestly believe it has a lot to do with that point in time that we rededicated ourselves to each other.
I follow your blog and enjoy it very much. I feel a connection with you and your Mistress because our lives and marriages are similar. Please forgive for the long story but I wanted to maybe be of some help. You definitely seem to be someone that is willing to hear the opinions of others, so please, take this information for whatever it may be worth to you. I wish you both the very best! I look forward to continuing to follow your blog.
My goodness, thank you so much for your very thorough input anonymous Mistress. I always love to hear from people, but in particular from Dominants, and especially so from Mistresses.
DeleteI really do appreciate your kind words and your support, not to mention the time it must have taken to put that comment together.
Best,
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