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Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Cum Eating
ROBERT_ANTHONY'S CHASTITY & FEMDOM BLOG, is one of my favorite blogs to follow. One of the things that Robert Anthony has in common with several other sub/slave husbands in established FemDomme Marriages is being required to always/occasionally eat or ingest their own cum. The idea of eating my cum makes me have to hold back a gag reflex. But, i must now admit that i find when i am reading a blog entry that is describing the sub husband being required to eat his own cum, gives me a hard-on. I know that it isn't the act of eating cum that has any appeal whatsoever, it doesn't. Rather it is the symbolic submissive gesture of always/sometimes being required to perform an "unpleasant act" as the price for orgasm that is arousing.
Recently i commented on a blog entry by Robert Anthony. In it are some of my thoughts on this topic.
You can find it here http://chastity-femdom.blogspot.com/2014/07/31-days-and-out.html?showComment=1405526990041#c3934840877095411952
In his story, he talked about having to eat his own cum after a surprise orgasm that he was given, that his Mistress smeared on her ass for no other purpose than for him to clean with his tongue. My cock was hard as a rock reading that story and i soon realised that the cum eating description was part of it.
Now, i want to reiterate here that Mistress K. finds that me being required to eat my own cum is gross. The idea of doing it, in and of itself alone is gross to me too. However, the idea that as a submissive, there is a "high price" to pay for right to be able to ejaculate is extremely exciting. Skin-in-the-game so to speak. I know this falls under the category of "be carefull for what you wish for", like mentioning that i think Mistress should spank me harder and longer, even to the pint of bruises and possbily tears if need be, in order to more firmly establish her dominance and to better deter undesireable behavior. i know that if i were ever presented with having to eat my own cum, expecially following a full orgsm, that it would something i'd try and talk her out of, but i would still do it if it were something that Mistress required.
i know Mistress K. will read this post and i know that it will be something i will need to talk about with Her in more depth about it. On one hand, it's not anything like eating shit or drinking piss (2 hard limits for me and Mistress K., thank God), it's just kind of yucky. I think Mistress may also associate a male eating cum as being too closely assocaited with male homosexual behavior, which i believe is something that she doesn't find sexually arousing. On the other hand, because we both agree(d) that eating my cum was gross, we both agreed that it woldn't be a part of our play, although it was never discussed as a hard limit like other , more obvious hard limit items like scat, blood, animals, incest, etc ...................
At the end of the day, it isn't ever up to me what types of activities or play we engage in, or if we do at all. It is always (and always will be) at the discretion of Mistress K. Since this blog is all about my ability to express myself honestly and communicate with others, i felt it was important enough to note that i was getting erections from reading how other sub husband were required to eat their cum, and i wasn't sure why. Perhaps this will be considered as the "shit is out of the horse" now, or Pandora's box is officially open. We'll see.
Commenting, if I may, on your last comment in the previous post, you are so lucky to be able to cum 10 times a year. Last year, 2013, I was permitted to cum 3 times,,the longest wait was 6 months. That was part of a punishment she was giving me. The year before it was 4 times. This year will be none. So including this year, for the past 3 years I have been allowed to cum 7 times. I remember all 7, they are so special. My wife loves me horny and loves my housework, attitude and overall demeanor when I am extremely horny. Her motto is " a horny husband is a good husband".
ReplyDeleteThanks for your interesting postings. You have one of the best blogs after Mistress Marie.
AH, I can't begin to tell you how appreciative i am of your kinds words. Being placed near mistress Marie on a list is high praise, especially coming from you. I think that you have one of the best blogs out there too.
DeleteMay I ask, are you saying that you will never be allowed to cum again, or is this something that your Mistress will decide annually? My wife loves me horny and attentive too, but there are times she says that she just wants to reward me with an orgasm. we don't have an acknowledged plan of less and less orgasm for me as time goes on. At least that i am not aware of.
Thank you again my friend. I'll keep reading yours if you'll keep reading mine. *wink
I agree that the fantasy of eating your own cum, more particularly being "made" to do so is very arousing. The reality is that it's one of those things that may be better enjoyed as a fantasy. What seems like such a great idea while at the peak of arousal, is not so exciting a few moments after orgasm. It certainly doesn't taste great, but I am not really adverse to eating it.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I wish that my wife would require that I eat my cum when she lets me orgasm, or at least make me do so when I have lost control and cum without her permission. Erotic punishment is always hot.
Thank you for commenting MRBILL. I am fully aware of the reason why it might want to be left as fantasy. To me, there is nothing arousing or sexual about the act of eating my own cum, in and of itself. I know that after an orgasm, any desire at all to do so would be gone! The idea of being made (forced) to do something that is knowlingly something that i would not otherwise want to do, as a gesture and symbol of my devotion is very arousing.
DeleteSo, i completely get what you're saying with regard to "be careful what you ask for ......" Frankly, i'm not asking for it. To me it's a whole lot like "wanting" to be punished much more severely when i have earned a punishment. A significantly harsher, mandatory punishment is something that is needed if training for corrective behavior is the goal, and in that sense is a good thing in my relationship with my Wife, and as such, is very arousing to me ... even though i know i will feel different at that moment when my ass is/should be bruising, burning and i am begging for it to stop, and then being told that the punishment has just begun.
MRBILL, thanks again for commenting. I'm always pleased and proud to be able to elicit a comment from you.
I agree that the fantasy may not be as hot as the reality. I don't mind it myself, but it isn't mine. When my husband has me suck his cock after it has been inside me I find that gross as well. That is when I have to submit. Which, in the end, is what I want. So maybe it is hot. ;)
ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting Brooke. You've summed it up very nicelt a far fewer words. Ha! It's not that i want to eat cum, or receive a punishment that i should regret having earned ..... it's that i want to demonstrate my devotion and submission to my Mistress, and do so in a way that isn't necessarily as easy as falling off a log.
DeleteThank you for your clarity Brooke.
As Mr. Bill states, at arousal and before cumming, our fantasies are in high gear. Everything seems feasible, even eating our own cum. Then once we orgasm, those thoughts leaves us in a instant. That is why my wife has limited my cumming, and why I am not being allowed to cum this whole year. She wants to keep me aroused and wants to enjoy my arousal, which she is doing immensely .
ReplyDeleteThank you again for your interest in my blog and for your comments AH. I know exactly what you mean about the willingness to do it will no longer be there after orgasm, but that is precisely what makes it arousing.
DeleteMistress K. also limits my orgsms for the same reason (wanting to keep me aroused and attentive), but we have also talked about how the lack of arousal/post orgasm doldrums/recovery period is not her problem, it is my problem and as such i will either train myself to not allow it to be an issue that she must deal with, or i will be punished for not meeting the minimum standard and level of performance she expects from me.
i also want to be trained for other things as well. :-)
An interesting topic shp. Since my wife has started making me eat my own cum most all the times I cum I have a few thoughts on the subject. I admit is it is not a taste that I'm fond of, but I also don't find it gross. I happen to be of the school of thought, that good girls swallow. In the past I've had girlfriends that swallowed and some that did not, I confess, I respected those that swallowed--my wife swallowed back then. Now that the panties are on me, I swallow if told or expected to do so. I don't see it as punishment, but as a reinforcement of my role in the relationship. My Mistress does not eat cum now, I do. ........Penney
ReplyDeleteThank you anonymous Penney. What an interesting take on the subject. I don't know the statistics (or even if there are any) but it seems that in most FLR/FLM relationships, the submissive is required to consume cum at least part of the time. Some simply believe that as standard operating procedure, if a male sub/slave ejaculates that it must always be consummed and sometimes couples will do it as punishment for things like unauthorized ejaculations or after as a "price" to pay for the pleasure of a full orgasm. i believe these couples use it as sort of an incentive for the sub not want so many orgasms. Afterall, if the slave/sub knows that he will need to consume his cum, he must really, really, really be horny.
DeleteI don't see it as punishment either AH and like you see it as a reinforcement of (and therefore symbolic geture of devotion) my role.
thanks again for commenting.
So, cum eating is the topic.....
ReplyDeleteI should probably clarify for your readers who don't know me, I am a female sub/wife to my D/Husband. He does give me g-spot/vaginal orgasms that make me cum quite a bit. And, I love inserting the female subby version answers into your questions!!
That being said, He does command, on (many) occasion that I clean him off with my tongue. When it's from his fingers, he literally just puts them into my mouth. As far as his cum soaked cock....my personal favorite and what happens most often.....he will often make me cum on him then get off and "clean" him up. Over and over. Sometimes he will say it, sometimes I just know that this is the expectation.
Do I like the taste of my cum? I never really put much thought to it. I am also in the camp with many of you that eating my cum is not the turn on in and of itself. The turn on, and the most submissive act in that moment that I can do, is to treat My Man and his body with the absolute love and desire that I have for him and clean him off as HE expects. It is such a strong act of submission to clean ME off of HIM. For us it is not used as a punishment so much as it is a reaffirmation that I serve HIM.
After he cums it is such an intimate ending for me to clean us both up off of him. As much as it is part of our kink, it really is such a loving gesture that truly puts me into subspace all on it's own. It is a time where I can express my pure gratitude.
I am outside on our deck as I write my comment here and My Man comes out to join me. I have him read my response. **grin** I say, "Do you like it?" He says "I just wake up, I still have sleep in my eyes, and I read this.....YEP"
Happy Friday! XOXO Pearl
Thanks so much pearl. you know i love to hear the female subby versions being inserted into my questions. (that sounds kind of sexy - smile)
DeleteYour take is interesting and beautiful. From the femsub (inserted) perspective, it's not exactly the same thing when you clean yourself off of HIM, but your explanation and reason behind it is tender, loving and very much the same. For a male sub to occasionally or always be required to consume his cum, whether it is from his Mistress's pussy or ass, whether it is pooled on her skin or on the floor, or whether it has been gathered specifically for consumption, it seems to me (because i've never done it) is a very significant demonstration of his devotion.
It is a interesting topic to be sure. Thank you so much Pearl, as always, for commenting.
i have been eating cum for 20 years. At first it was my cum from Her pussy on those rare occasions when She let me cum inside Her. Since then i have licked my cum from a shot glass in which She collects it during a ruined orgasm or milking. In addition, i have been eating other men's cum from Her pussy since the beginning of our relationship. At first i really didn't like it, but with the tremendous orgasms She gets from having me clean Her up i now enjoy it and wouldn't have it any other way!
ReplyDeleteWow. 20 years? I sometimes read about FLM couples that require the sub husband/boyfriend to always consume his ejaculate, and other that require when sometimes at the discretion of the Mistress. It's a fascinating thing in that it is a required ritual that the sub must do as a gesture to devotion to his Mistress. That aspect of it is exciting and erotic. The actual act of consuming my own cum is not at all something I wish existed in my FLM. Mistress K. does not at all like the idea either because she thinks it is disgusting. All that being said, knowing the depth of my love, dedication and devotion that I have for, it's not an absolute hard limit and at the end of the day, there is anything I wouldn't do for her to prove my devotion. Well, except I wouldn't do one thing you are required to do and that is consume another mans cum because having sex with another man is not an option in our relationship, for either of us. It is a hard limit!
DeleteI have to consume my semen. It does not taste good after an orgasm. I would prefer to have squirted directly into my mouth.
ReplyDeleteI am a solo masturbator, but I have to add that after that first time I find that eating my cum is exciting. For a long time I thought about it but never followed through once it came out. But now it enhances my masturbation experience!
ReplyDeleteThat's so lovely to hear Fred. I suppose that like most things, eating your own cum is not that big of a deal, especially if you have made up you mind to do it, or if my Dom were to make up her mind that it is something that should always be done. Just like washing the dishes when they are dirty, and being required to be naked in her presence, it becomes natural after a while .. I presume.
DeleteI always have to eat my own cum. At first it was embarrassing and hard but I learned pretty quickly that if I wanted to cum, I would have to eat it. So I did. Now after years and years of eating cum I have learned to love it! I love the taste and feeling of gobbling up cum. I am a proud cum eater and a very well trained cum slut!
ReplyDeleteI sure wouldn't say i am proud of it, or that i like it, but i will admit i do it. Early on my wife told me in no certain terms that eating semen was disgusting and if it was going to be done, it would be me doing it. And yes it does sound good to me, before i ejaculate, but not afterwards which is usually when i have to do it. A hard bare bottom paddling is excellent incentive. Sometimes even the threat of it is enough. Fast forward, i have learned that it is usually worse when it isn't mine, it just depends on how it is being dispensed. I much prefer it out of her, than from the original source. The one positive thing that i can say about it, is that it was a big step in being and staying in a real Femdom relationship.
DeleteThanks for your comment Anonymous Feb 18. I completely understand what you said. I know that many subhubs are required to consume all of their ejaculate every time by their Mistress, and I understand why a Mistress would make that rule. Mistress K. has always thought it would be gross and had no interest in even considering it but lately, after hearing so many stories of the adventures of other WLM couples, her interest in it has gone from NO WAY to hmmm, interesting. We'll see if that means anything I guess.
DeleteAnonymous May 8th, thanks for your comment and back story. Mistress K. is currently like your Mistress was in that she thought it was disgusting. That may be changing. We haven't evolved our relationship to it being considered required cum consumption of cum that isn't mine because she does not take on other lovers. I know that could change too while on our journey.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments