Are we at that inevitable point in our relationship, where Mistress's pleasure naturally would/should include another man's cock? Maybe one that isn't prone to erupt in seconds because it has been constantly teased and denied, for weeks on end, like mine can be? Is it that time in our relationship already? Is it inevitable? Am I prepared?
Each of us has our own little worlds that we live in. We want those worlds to be safe, warm and full of love. My love for Mistress K. is undeniable and as deep as anything I know and feel. I want to bring her pleasure in life. I want for her to have access to and the ability to enjoy, as much pleasure in life as possible. Not just sexual pleasures, but every pleasure that is available to her. I trust Mistress K. to be a very good arbiter of common sense when it comes to determining which pleasures she can safely indulge in, and which ones she can't. For example, there is pleasure in cake and pie. Mistress K., I suppose, could decide that because eating cake and pie is indeed a pleasure, and because she is in charge of determining what pleasures she can indulge in, she can eat cake and pie as much as she wants without ramifications. Right? Of course not, and she, like any rational person, knows that.
What about sex? Ah, now that's a different story, right? I mean after all, Mistress K. is among a select group of people in this world. Like relatively few others, she is someone that lovingly owns the heart, mind and body of someone else, which of course means that she could have any kind of sex, anytime she wants, any way she wants, simply because she wants to. She decides the if, the when, the how of sex. She also is the one that decides the who. How great is that?
Like any other group of people, those of us the FLR/FLM world are sometimes subject to what is claimed to be "normal". Newbies starting out are worried about whether or not they are "doing it right". Experienced couples ask and are asked questions all the time, about "is it normal for us to do this, or normal to do that ....?" Personally, I've never been a fan of worrying about where any of us actually do or should "fit in". I get a bit weary at the natural inclination of people (me included) to constantly try to define everything into narrow definitions. There are even those that will give unsolicited opinions of how you/we are doing it right or doing it wrong. I have a commenter who is an anonymous "Mistress". She will occasionally comment or email me to let me know that until Mistress K. requires me to consume my own cum, we really don't have a
legitimate FLM because, well, you know, it's what everyone does in an FLM. Although she's adamant about, she's pleasant enough and even humorous about it that I really can't take offence to it. Besides, even if I did, unless a commenter is blatantly, obviously and needlessly offensive, I'll always leave their comments in place. Thankfully, Mistress K. and I don't feel the need to allow anyone outside of our deep love for each other, to define the parameters that love.
Even though some things are never "
always required" to define the kind of relationship Mistress K. and I have, there are undeniable commonalities to a D/s relationship. Especially a Female Led D/s relationship. Of course, one of those "not uncommon" things is for the Dominant Female to take on a male lover ..... be it a full-on cuckold relationship, with humiliation, forced bi and other things that serve to degrade and humiliate the submissive male; or Her taking a random, nameless, faceless male, human sex toy, it's obviously not an uncommon thing in a FLM/FLR.
That being said, there are many, many monogamous FLM's, and my marriage is one of them. Neither Mistress K. nor I have previously expressed a desire in the past for a separate male lover to sexually service Mistress K. We are both very, very protective of the core elements of our love, and would never do anything to risk that. It's a key reason why we never actually did engage I a threesome with other women when we had the chances in the past. Safeguarding our love.
One of the effects on me that has evolved from our FLM is that is I get an ENORMOUS amount of joy and pleasure from seeing Mistress K. having intense sexual pleasure and orgasm. It is a genuine thrill for me. It really is. I've even been able to have a ruined orgasm by simply watching my beloved wife having a orgasm. I am also so grateful that Mistress allows me to see her have her orgasms. I know that isn't always the case for many submissive husbands. Witnessing her having an orgasm will usually put me into immediate and deep subspace. Our evolution has brought me to now get as much sexual pleasure from her orgasms, as I could get from having one on my own. It is just that much of a joy to be a part of and to witness my beloved Wife having such pleasure.
One of the realities of a FLM, is daily teasing/edging, followed by orgasm denial. For many couples, it's a key component in their recipe for happiness. I know it is in mine. As such, the male is in a nearl constant state of arousal, which means that he often a hair trigger penis, and can usually come in a matter of seconds when his penis is pressed into service (pun intended). I'm sure there are some men out there than can do it, ..... that can go from a teased/denied, constant state of edge-of-orgasm arousal, to a porn-star like man that can fuck as long as she wants, and cum on command. For the rest of us mortal humans, that kind of thing is usually not possible.
There are times when suddenly Mistress feels the desire to be fucked, good, hard and for as long as she wants. When the times comes, and because of my constant state of arousal, it usually requires some numbing cream, a cock sleeve and waiting time for the cream to numb the cock. Should she have to be concerned about her sub cumming without permission, or worse, having to stop altogether to avoid ejaculation? This doesn't seem fair for any Mistress not to have a hard cock available to fuck her like she wants.
Last night I was having many random, crazy dreams. In one of them, Mistress K. was getting fucked by another man, she was loving every second of it. Not only that, I was there, naked, sitting behind her, holding her legs apart. Not only that, I helped this strange man him fuck my wife by grabbing and holding his cock, and guiding it into her pussy, then watched as he brought intense pleasure from being fucked long and hard. (In my dream, he didn't have a big, giant cock like that depicted in the picture below, but there are only so many pictures of husbands holding their wife's legs apart so she can fucked, and except for the giant cock, it's pretty much how I remember the scene in my slumbering head. * smile)
Not only that, when recalling that portion of the dream, I got a huge erection, and then I got another huge erection telling Mistress K. about it. Wait, what? Did I just say that? This is something new.
How could this be? The last time I had a sex dream that included any other man, it caused me to wake up in a panic. It was one of those .... "oh good, it was only a dream, but I still need some reassurance from you right now" kind of dreams. And in this particular dream, all she did was barely handle a guy's cock that happened to be lying next to us in bed, for some reason.
With these things in mind and being a bit jealous by nature, how could I go from near panic about a dream where Mistress K. briefly touches another man's cock, to waking up as hard as a rock and very aroused because another man fucked her? How could this be? I'd say the biggest difference between the two "mind-fuck" dreams, was that the man in my latest dream was merely a faceless, nameless human sex toy. There was no intimacy between him and my Mistress. No kissing, no typical cuckold fodder about how I was a useless man when it came to sex. There was none of that. He wasn't there to steal her, or replace me in her life in any way. Mistress seemed very intent on making sure I knew that, during the dream. In fact, there was a great deal of gratitude and intimacy that was directed solely at me while she was being well fucked by this other man.
Are we there already? Are we at that milepost on our journey? Are we growing up? Are we growing into our journey? Oh boy .......... What's next?
